From Claire, Age 14 - 06/22/08 - IP#: 91.106.148.xxx Click here to reply Ht. 5'1", Start: 10 st 4, Today: 10 st 4, Goal: 7 st 10 - Hi I'm Claire and hoping someone can help me or at least give me some encouragement. I'm 14 and have been overweight since I was about 9. Before that I was quite thin and then I just started to gain weight. People started commenting on it like my parents friends. In the last two years my mum has started to criticise my weight constantly. Today she came to my room and started shouting at me because I hadn't helped washing the dishes after lunch. She shouted "You never help because youre always sitting around on your big fat bottom YOU BIG FAT THING". She says this sort of thing constantly. It's like she hates me and when she looks at me all she sees is fat. When she went out of my bedroom I cried and cried. I felt so disgusting and bad. She did something similar last week when she took me and two of my friends to school in the car. As we got out of the car she said I should start walking to school because I'm getting too fat and when she said it she made sure my two friends heard. Another time my aunts and cousins were there and I was sitting on the floor in front of her and she just suudenly said "Claire's getting fat". My aunt said that I'm not that big and my mum said "No that's definitely fat" and stuck her toe in my side. Also she was sitting on a bench in the garden one day and I went and sat beside her and she said that the bench had gone way down when I sat on it and she asked how much I weigh. I just said I don't know and went back into the house away from her. Yesterday she told me that her friend said I had put on weight. I don't feel like I can talk to her because I don't feel close to her and I don't know what to do. My dad is never around and feels like a stranger when he is there. I have only been told I'm fat one time at school and my friends don't usually say that sort of thing. I really hate my life and just feel so unhappy. I know my mum is disappointed about the way I look but I cant help feeling really angry about the things she says... I'm hoping someone has some suggestions about what I can do. Claire xx (Note: 10 st 4 is 144 lb.)
Reply from Claire, Age 19 - 06/22/08 - IP#: 64.131.205.xxx Aww man! HANG IN THERE! she's just saying all of this stuff to see if you'll do anything about it. Trust me, I know how it feels. My mom has made fun of me too..and then I asked why does she do it and she said so that I can feel bad, get up and do something about it! and it's so stupid because they don't understand what a mean and heartless way that is to approach the matter! IGNORE IT. You have to or it'll just break you down like I know it is now. YOu're a strong girl and I know you can do anything if you put your mind to it. 144 is not even bad! if your mother talks then let her, don't give in to her ridicule..just rise above it or you'll go mad! take her terrible words and turn them into your strength. You can do it! =) I wish you the best of luck!
Reply from Flower Fawn, Age 15 - 06/22/08 - IP#: 96.227.102.xxx I'm sorry your mom is being so negative. It's sad that she would be so harsh to you even if she really cares about your health. ALWAYS believe in yourself becuase you are beautiful. If you're happy with your body, don't changer to please someone else. However, if you're unhappy or feel unhealthy, loosing weight in a safe and healthy way could be a good thing, just be sure to keep a positive body image and block out the negative stuff. You're in my prayers. Best of luck!
Reply from Emily, Age 13 - 06/22/08 - IP#: 24.131.219.xxx tell her that instead of putting u down like that and being a bitch, that she helps u instead!!!
Reply from ellie, Age 15 - 06/22/08 - IP#: 212.30.5.xxx what a bitch! my mum sometimes makes comments like that and i often think all she sees is me being fat
Reply from Brandi, Age 13 - 06/22/08 - IP#: 66.74.164.xxx ok first of all how tall are you you are not fat at all your at a healthy weight for your age your weight is actually my goal weight im sorry but your mom is very wrong about you im sure that your not fat and if people at school call you fat is because they are just jealous and if your mom calls you those thing im really sorry about that you need to tell her something like do you want mme to be anorexic or have an eating disorder! is your mom thinner than you? it doesnt really matter but if your happy with your weight dont let anyone try to make you too thin if you go to the doctors and tell you your healthy with your weight dont lose weight if you think you really need to lose weight then start walking around your neighbor hood after lunch or dinner and do sit ups and if you eat a lot just eat a little less im really SORRY your mom doesnt give you any support but maybe you should talk to her a nd tell her how wat she calls you make you feel and tell her that it just makes you angry and it doesnt want to make you lose weight when she tells you rude things like that and why would your MOTHER of all people try to embarass you in front of friends and family?! remember if need to lose weight always do it the healthy way and if you ever need to talk to someone or need help ill always be on here GOOD LUCK - Brandi S.
