From Melissa, Age 15 - 04/24/09 - IP#: 75.162.157.xxx Click here to reply Ht. 5'4", Start: 173 lb, Today: 173 lb (BMI %tile: 96), Goal: 130 lb - It's long but bear with me :) I wanted to discuss with you guys if you feel people are hypocrital. My parents are CONSTANTLY telling me not to eat too much, and to exercise more and to eat healthier...but I watch them and their overweight, they don't eat healthy, they don't buy healthy stuff and well I don't think it's very encouraging and it doesn't really make me appreciate my parents at all. It just makes me dislike them because they aren't encouraging me or helping me at all. I know my mom wants to lose weight desperately and I know she's been really unhappy for a long time with herself but I feel like her low self confidence has caused me and my older sister to be heavier. My brothers are athletic so I dont know what happened to me and my sis. I hate it because my mom constantly is talking about losing weight, every year her new year's resolution is to lose weight, but she never puts in the motivation to exercise or stay dedicated to it. and now because of her example i am the same way. i can be motivated but that doesn't mean i'll be dedicated about weight loss. so what i want is advice. i want to know how i can stay motivated and dedicated to lose weight even though my family is not helping or encouraging me in anyway way ??
Reply from DancingDamsel, Age 13 - 04/26/09 - IP#: 75.138.99.xxx Advice? I think that since you are not getting the support you want (but don't need though it would make life a heck of a lot easier) from your parents, you need to support and encourage yourself. If you have AOL, put little reminders for yourself on the Events so that you will be encouraged a bit every day. Or, buy a bulletin board. Or, put Post-its on your desk (Nothing Tastes As Good As Thin Feels, You're Too Far Along To Take Orders From A Cookie, Keep Going, Just Do It, Go Walking, Don't Be A Couch POTATO, etc, etc.) Just encourage yourself any way you possibly can. Or, involve your friends (I'm assuming you have friends, right?). Tell them about your goals and they won't let you back down when you're not in the mood to work out, or feeling upset, or feeling unmotivated, or whatever. BOTTOM LINE: You don't need parents to encourage you when you're losing weight: you need motivation, determination, dedication, and confidence-ation. ;) Good luck and keep us posted, Melissa!
Reply from Hali, Age 15 - 04/25/09 - IP#: 74.5.166.xxx I dont think you should be blaming this on your mother. At least not all of it. Yes she should set a better exemple, but think of it this way, its twice as hard for her to lose weight, she has three kids (two of who are overweight according to you) a job to manage, a house to keep clean and (I assume) a husbend. She has so much to deal with it is hard for her to look after herself. I understand where you are coming from completely, I blamed my mother for a VERY long time too, until I figured out what she was going through. You really need to talk to your mother about this or if you do lose the weight, you will most likely gain it back because a emotional problem is still there. (I am SO sorry if I sound like a shrink!)
