From Samantha, Age 15 - 04/26/10 - IP#: 92.232.133.xxx Click here to reply Ht. 5'3", Start: 196 lb, Today: 196 lb (BMI %tile: 98), Goal: 154 lb - I'm 15 years of age, and so far my weight has just been going up + up. Ive felt so down lately because of how big im getting, its my 16th soon + i cant even wear a dress. I was wondering if anyone has gone threw bullying because of their weight, and if they have gotten over it because i havent been able to. Any advice?
Reply from Melissa, Age 16 - 04/30/10 - IP#: 71.35.238.xxx I am a twin. To a wonderful, kind brother. He is a football player and his quite popular. I'm "Mitchell's fat twin sister." ...that's my title. His friends make perverted jokes about me because of my weight and because they like to provoke him. A couple of times they've had the nerve to make those comments to my face. It's hard, there's no doubt about it. But I think you've just got to love yourself and ignore them. A wise woman told me that I need to look at myself in the mirror and tell myself "I'm beautiful and gorgeous because I am me." It sounds cheesy but it works. I have confidence in myself that I've never had before. I think people need to learn is that it's not about being skinny and popular. It's about being healthy and comfortable with yourself. You shouldn't change for anyone but you. Those bullys can tease and judge but you shouldn't let it affect you. Because if you let it affect you, you've let them win....Yes, lose weight! Love yourself. But only do it for you :) Good luck :)
Reply from Ally13, Age 22 - 04/26/10 - IP#: 74.92.246.xxx When I was growing up, there were definitely people around who made comments about my weight or would compare me to my twin sister (who was tiny!), etc., and let me tell you, every comment HURT. I can still remember crying sometimes just because I felt so ugly and fat and I'd used to dream about looking like the rest of my friends. In my experience, no, I've never gotten OVER them per se. Remembering some of those comments made about me still hurt sometimes, but here's the thing...while they hurt, it's more of a childhood hurt that I'm remembering. It's the feeling of inadequacy I felt, like I was an outcast in a way. I still had friends, etc., but I was never THAT girl that every guy wanted to date, and that hurts when you're a teenager and all you want is acceptance. You grow up though...you leave high school behind, you forge your own way in the world, you make yourself into a unique and special person and eventually you realize that not everything is about looks and body size. The real world, outside of high school, is so much more than how many guys asked you to prom, whether or not you can wear the 'in' clothing style that all of the size 2 girls are wearing, etc. It may not seem that way now because you're 15 and that's understandable because, while you may realize things change after high school, you're STILL IN high school and you have to deal with all of this on an ongoing basis, but I promise, it does change once you're out of school. Right now what you need to focus on is making yourself into the type of person you want other people to see. If you want to lose weight because that makes you feel better about yourself then do it, but don't do it for everyone else. More importantly than body image though, make your personality something to be proud of. There are countless teens who are or have been exactly where you're at. I know what you're going through and it hurts just to think of someone else having to feel the same things I did as a teenager, but you'll get through it and you'll come out a better, more empathetic person for it. =)
