From Nancy, Age 39 - 05/22/04 - IP#: 66.65.245.xxx Click here to reply
Hi Guys,I'm a mom of an overweight daughter and I need some help. I hope by asking kids her age, you folks can enlighten me on some things.Amanda is 13 and her biggest problem is that the group of "friends" that she hangs around with are back-stabbers. They have been for the last four years. She's painfully shy and has a very hard time making friends, but when she does, she really lets loose and has a great time. These people that she hangs with in school are nice to her face and then horrible when she walks away. I've tried to get Amanda involved in other scenarios where she can start new friendships but we live in a wealthy area and most of the kids are snobby as heck. Can any of you guys help me? I know there's more wisdom on here with kids than I realize and I hope someone out there has an idea that I haven't yet thought of.thanks for reading this.Nancy
Reply from leah, Age 14 - 05/28/04 - IP#: 65.54.98.xxx its hard to go through that,i know, because my so called 'friends' r the same way.....keep reminding her, if she hangs out with them she will get hurt
Reply from Hermy, Age 10 - 05/24/04 - IP#: 207.65.156.xxx i know im not her age or anything but i use to have a coulple of friends like that and i was shy. I did sleepaway camp softball and basket ball dance and Cheerleading. Now i have so many friends to many to count!
Reply from Emily, Age 12 - 05/23/04 - IP#: 68.148.144.xxx Talk to your daughter about what you think is wrong and she can tell you her opinion on whats happening. Make sure you let her make her own decisions, but you should have a possitive influence on them. Siscuss the possibility of a youth group or activity, as those are always great to make new friends in. Hopefully you will take some of this advice into consideration. ~Emily~
Reply from Nicole, Age 12 - 05/23/04 - IP#: 24.71.223.xxx Enroll your daughter in dance or art lessons. That is a great way to meet new people. If she is shy maybe you can put her in a sleep away camp or acting class!
Reply from JessJess, Age 13 - 05/23/04 - IP#: 137.111.13.xxx Hey, Oh man, I used to have friends like that, and I was really shy so I just stayed with them!!! It was pretty bad, but at one time I had a class at school and none of them were in it and we had to go into pairs, I met this girl whose friends weren't in the class either and now we're best friends and I left the bitchy people. Amanda's really just gotta talk to other people it's the only way she'll meet new peeps!!! Does she know they don't like her? Cause if she doesn't know then she certainly won't be going out looking for new friends! If she wants ta talk or wateva i'm at chunkyhunny@hotmail.com taa taa JJ
Reply from susie, Age 12 - 05/22/04 - IP#: 68.174.131.xxx well, she is sort of like me. My best friend is a bach-stabber, she is always talking bout me. And so my dad signed me up for sleep away camp away from her, and i got a whole lot of new friends and now their my best friends now. People from camp are useally a lot differnt then people from school
Reply from meeee, Age 14 - 05/22/04 - IP#: 152.163.253.xxx I know what's that's like I used to have friends like that too. My advice would be to let her stay friends with the kids, bad as they are it's better than no friends. Sometimes kids grow out of it. Encourage her to make new friends too and maybe sign her up for a youth group like PEERS or something at your church.
