From Ebony - 04/15/03 - IP#: 207.6.208.xxx Click here to reply
As a person who has struggled with an eating disorder since the age of 10, I am absolutly appaled by some of the parents on this board.. ACCEPT YOUR CHILDREN AS THEY ARE...THEY ARE NOT YOU..if you are overweight, YOU lose the weight, don't pressure your child..Encourage and set a good example. Don't EVER call them fat, EVER. Or Chunky, chubby etc.. NEVER Call your child names. Accept them as they are, they are your children.
Reply from Katie, Child's Age 9 - 09/11/12 - IP#: 66.67.168.xxx Listen, I'm new to the message board and I haven't seen any sort of name calling or encouraging destructive behavior that would encourage eating disorders. What I have read is a lot of parents concerned about the esteem issues their children are facing by their peers. Do you have any children with this problem? Just wondering. Do you have to dry their tears after an especially rough day at school. These parents are trying to find a way to encourage HEALTHY eating and exercise habits. I think they should be commended for seeking ideas from people whom cannot only give new ideas but empathize with the difficulty of this. So maybe you should be a little more empathetic yourself. Apparently you didn't have the kind of support these parents are looking for.
Reply from Tina, Child's Age 9 - 08/14/03 - IP#: 64.12.96.xxx It is a parent's reponsibility to teach their children to the best of their ability about living a healthy lifestyle. As I see it, parents that would be labeling their children such names as you mentioned would not care enough to research a site such as this to help their children. LOW SELF ESTEEM IS NOT OK-NOT HEALTHY! In fact, I would be surprised if such parents even knew how to turn on a computer!
Reply from Kim, Child's Age 7 - 05/28/03 - IP#: 66.190.190.xxx I think that you are jumping the gun here, MOST of these parents are just concerned for their children. There are a few that are questionable as to whether they are even true. I agree that there should not be any name calling, however I don't believe that we should sugar coat things for our children either. I believe that we should be straight forward with our children that way we can work together to reach the goal, which is a HEALTHY weight. I also see that you have no children listed. You should not judge people when you have never been in their situation.
Reply from Jodi, Child's Age 14 - 04/21/03 - IP#: 204.31.53.xxx I think your daughter is fine! As long as she's active and healthy there is certainly nothing to worry about. Remember especially that muscle weighs more than fat. Also, she's just 12, so she will be growing both up and out.
Reply from Ebony - 04/18/03 - IP#: 207.6.208.xxx If you dont call your child those names then I clearly wasnt replying to you. My post was in response to those other parents who DO call their children names. RELAX and don't be so defensive.
Reply from Tara, Child's Age 4 - 04/16/03 - IP#: 172.143.58.xxx We are encouraging parents to help their children. I don't want my son to come to me a few years down the road and ask me why I let me get so big. I don't call my son fat...but plenty of his peers do and that is what eats away at his self-esteem. He's only 4 and already self-conscious about taking his shirt off around other people. Carrying around etra weight isn't healthy....I would love him if he was 500 lbs but I care about his health. My son has a pre-occupation with food that I cannot explain. I'm not overweight, nor is his father, and yet my son sees food and he wants it. Which is normal, he doesn't know any better. But the way he acts, one might think that he's been deprived. Back to my point....if you are so appalled, then perhaps you need some more time with your shrink to get over your traumatizing childhood.
Reply from rose, Child's Age 12 - 04/14/03 - IP#: 205.187.216.xxx i agree you should never call a child fat but you should still encourage them to loose weight if thry need to
Reply from Vicky, Child's Age 11 - 04/12/03 - IP#: 67.35.250.xxx I am also appalled by your coments. As you can see, the parents who do write on this bulletin board are very concerned about their childs health. This is not something I want my child to grow up with battling a weight problem. I realize he isn't as concerned about it now, but as a parent and an adult, he WILL be very concerned about it later on in life. That is just common sense. We PARENTS want to try to get our children to start losing the weight now beause (as you must know) it is a lot harder as an adult. By the way, for your information, I do not call my child FAT, CHUNKY, or any other names. I am his parent not his peer. He gets enough of that at school, and having been an overweight child yourself, you should understand MORE about how WE parents want to help our children now before health problems set on or they gain even more weight. Therefore, I think you should reflect on your childhood and think about how it would have been nice to have thoughtful enough parents to want to help their child as much as they could.
