From Bea, Child's Age 16 - 11/16/07 - IP#: 38.99.101.xxx Click here to reply
I have been trying to support my daughter (she's 16, 5'4") i have recently learned that she weighs 229 lbs, carrys most of her weight in her big belly. I know she is embarrassed by her weight, her brothers and sisters and her father and I are very thin, and she is always gaining more and more weight. we try to exercise, but she is so embarrassed to be working out, I can tell mostly its because her belly wobbles alot. any advice from any of you whose children have larger bellies?
Reply from Adeline, Child's Age 5 - 09/28/09 - IP#: 75.80.12.xxx My ex and I share a son who turns 5 in Nov. 2009. We've been seperated for 3 years now with no significant other in our lives. Overall, our son is a very happy kid. Cracks me up all the time. Maybe I'm wrong but I think from experience, emotional neglect could stain parent-child relationships. Which brings me to my question: Several times now, his father expressed dissatisfaction with my son's weight. Sometimes, unexpectedly in front of my son, he said our son couldn't keep up with hiking or running, out of breath, "he's fat", "all the other kids are skinny". "Its embarrassing" "I look like a bad parent" Other times I heard him tell our son "you have a fat belly". Enough......I'm sure, whoever is reading this gets the point. My problem is this: Am I wrong to think that his father critisizes too much therefore planting insecurity in our son's developing personality? I feel for my little guy, for a 5 year old he displays too much discomfort. I hope someone out there could give me some insight bcuz I want the best for our little guy. And if that means less time with his dad then so be it.
Reply from Taylor, Child's Age 14 - 02/23/08 - IP#: 75.66.43.xxx Just make sure she knows the whole family is supportive of her in her efforts to lose weight. be as positive as possible about it. Try to get the whole family to do activities together like going for a walk, or dancing, or jumping rope. If the whole family does it chances are she won't be so embarassed, and it will be a great bonding experience! Best wishes!
Reply from David, Child's Age 12 - 01/10/08 - IP#: 67.100.126.xxx Your daughter needs to understand that you love her regardless of what size she is. If she loses weight she must do it for herself and not for you. My daughter is at 170lbs. and very ashamed of her weight. I am having that battle myself trying to get her to talk about it openly. One of the things that I am trying is to talk about my own weight problem, (I am about 20lbs. overweight and eating a healthy diet myself. Furthermore both her mother and I are diabetic and she is at risk from going the same way. One thing that will benifit her is that one does not have to be a diabetic to benifit from a daibetic's diet. Best of luck, David
Reply from Rachael, Child's Age 16 - 11/16/07 - IP#: 67.84.109.xxx i am also sixteen and quite obese myself. i am 213. i would like to talk to your daughter maybe we can help eachother. anyway- how large is her stomach? i wear a size 18. i try to workout but its hard being a teenager and our size.
