From Taylor - 02/23/08 - IP#: 75.66.43.xxx Click here to reply
Okay, so nope, I'm not a parent, but I was bored and so nI was reading some of the posts on here, and WHOA! Hold on a second! Don't get me wrong, a lot of the parents on here are taking a very positive approach to their child's weight loss. But in contrast there are far too many parents who use words like "disgusting", "fat", and "lazy" to describe THEIR CHILD! And so many more who put phrases like "I'm humiliated" and "I don't know what to do". Stop and rewind for a sec; is this about YOU? I thought this was about YOUR CHILD! the one who desperately needs help and support, to lose weight. Who needs some one to turn to when they're bullied, or they don't know how to go about losing weight by themselves. It's just sick to be "humiliated" by your own child. If you don't support them no one will, and if they're unhappy about their weight, they'll do whatever they can to get rid of it. But if you don't teach them the right way, they won't know what to do. So in order lose weight, they'll do exactly the OPPOSITE of what they're doing now. They just won't eat or they'll purge everything they eat, and then the have a nice case or anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa. Do you want that to happen? And when they're underweight will you be "humiliated" or "embarassed" by them? Will you be screaming at them to stop doing sit-ups and go eat dinner? Because being underweight is just as dangerous as being overweight. But I've never come across a site where there are people saying they're humiliated by there 60 pound teenage daughter. So to you parents who are being supportive and doing the right thing, I wish the best for you and you child. You're heart's in the right place, and you will see the reward of happiness in your child's eyes. But for the rest of you who constantly call your child "fat" or a "pig", I hope you change your ways. I would know what it's like. I'm a perfectly healthy weigth... 127 at 5'6", but still everytime I put on a bathing suit or eat a snack I have to hear my parents talking about how chubby I am or how much of a pig I am. It's not easy. So do something to help your child. By calling them names or saying your embarassed by them, you're only hurting them.
Reply from fara, Child's Age 13 - 08/05/08 - IP#: 67.161.91.xxx sorry i mean 5'2 and 160
Reply from fara, Child's Age 13 - 07/27/08 - IP#: 67.161.91.xxx your totally right! my parents do the same exact thing to me too sometimes, even though i am actually kind of over-weigh( 5'2 and 130 pounds) still thats no excuse to have them call me ugly and whatnot, its no excuse for anyone. parents are often time the only one kids like us can go to, sometimes we dont have many friends or cant talk to them about stuff like this, and it hurts when theyre against you too.
Reply from Donnie, Child's Age 14 - 05/19/08 - IP#: 88.110.51.xxx you're right about all the parents, if they want to help their kids, why slag them off. im reading this, cause i'm bored also.
Reply from Taylor to Heather, Child's Age 14 - 03/10/08 - IP#: 75.66.43.xxx Thanks! Yeah, I just thought people should know, because I've experienced that kind of verbal abuse first hand, and it has seriously results. I became bulimic for a time, until I realized I didn't need to be. Until some good friends stopped me. But did you know Michael Jackson's dad always teased him about having a big nose, and there very well may have led to his sugeries and what not. He's still hurts inside when he talks about it in interveiws, and I wonder how parents can do this to their own children.
Reply from Heather, Child's Age 16 - 03/09/08 - IP#: 71.217.139.xxx dude you are amazing i was doing the same thing not a parent just bored so i was checking this out and was reading what parents have to say and its sad you dont tell your kid they are fat or a pig or chubby or any other name parents that do are just jerks in my oppinion so anyways just wanted to tell you that i liked what you posted
Reply from Taylor to Shay, Child's Age 14 - 02/29/08 - IP#: 75.66.43.xxx Aw thanks, Shay! It's nice to know that some adults really can accept other people's (even younger people's) points of veiw! I've thought about it. Right now I have a lot on my hands because I coach a jump rope team several hours a week, and I'm involved in Key club at my school which does a lot of service work outside school, but it's definitely something to think about. Thanks for taking the time to read my message and reply!
Reply from Shay, Child's Age 25 - 02/29/08 - IP#: 98.193.28.xxx Wow, I'm really sorry that your parents are so unsupportive. But it sounds like you have the confidence and self-esteem to rise above it and I applaud that! With your great attitude, have you ever thought about working (or volunteering if you're too young) with the YMCA or some other organization where you could really be a role model for kids? I've read a lot of the advice that you've given and it seems honest, and mature beyond your years. Best of luck!
Reply from Taylor, Child's Age 14 - 02/24/08 - IP#: 75.66.43.xxx Hello, Joe! Seriously, when did I say I was an expert? Oh yeah... I DIDN'T!!! And I read the board because I was bored, and I saw a lot of parents who are going to end up hurting there kids more than helping it. I'm not an expert, but I am a kid, and maybe you don't remember what it's like to be one. I've seen tons of other kids posting advice on here and other parents accept it willingly! Are you too good for advice given by someone younger? Because news flash! Just because your older and you may have kids doesn't make you an expert on them either!
Reply from joe, Child's Age 14 - 02/24/08 - IP#: 76.88.147.xxx At age 14, do you have any children of your own? So what makes you an expert? This is a board for PARENTS.
