From john, Child's Age 12 - 06/20/09 - IP#: 69.123.160.xxx Click here to reply
we are back from our cruise vacation, early in the morning. i feel so guilty for letting sammie eat so much on the ship now, bacause i didn't know she would really eat all day. she definitely looks like she has gained weight. when we left the ship, her stomach was literally sticking out of her shirt. it isn't flabby, though, it is firm, and round,she does have love handles and fat rolls, but it dosen't hang down unless she sits. yesterday, when my wife finally convinced her to go swimming, we found her bathing suit no longer fit her, either, mainly in the waist part. also, we found out she gained an extra thirty pounds. she just keeps getting bigger and bigger, and even a member on the ship said to her with a laugh:i saw you all the time by that buffet table. that stomach of your sure looks like it knows how to fit it all in! we heard another rude comment while leaving, from a couple talking to themselves they said:look at the size of that girl! it looks like she takes the food away from her family, look how skinny her poor brother is!if i were them, i'd do some liposuction on that stomach of hers. it must be as big as the ship! i tried to ignore all the comments about her abnormally large belly, but i just couldn't. i can't take this any more. i can tell sammie really wishes se didn't tell me she likes her body this way, because she dosen't. i see the envy in her eyes when i complement her brother on how good his abs look in a bathing suit, and when i ask her if she has gained weight. i want to encourage her brother to pursue his dreams, but meanwhile i am crushing hers. whenever kyle's friends come over, they ask, is that really yoour little sister? she's so fat! and he laughs with them. he just acts so darn obnoxious, and makes sure he gets a front fow seat when she gets weighed inthe doctor's office. our doctor actually yelled at him when he said, she might break the scale. really, he has no concern, and is just embarrassed of her size. i really need your help, she is getting larger every day. please, this is very impportant to me, and the health of my big girl.
Reply from Taylor, Age 15 - 06/24/09 - IP#: 75.66.40.xxx I'm sorry you're still struggling with this. For your daughter, it's not all about her being happy, because no matter how happy she acts, even when she eats, I doubt she's all that happy, and she's definitely not healthy. If she cries when you try and get her to exercise, then do something fun, don't call it exercise. Go swimming, bike riding, walking, play basketball AS A FAMILY. If it's all of you, she probably won't question it, but if you're trying to push her to exercise with just her brother, or just you, it can be difficult because it's easy to feel the pressure when it feels like it's just because she's overweight. All of you need exercise, so do it together. Don't let your son ALWAYS work out alone, have him be active with you as a family. As for her eating, let her eat several smallers meals throughout the day, or healthier things. She can have snacks, but just healthy ones. Perhaps go to a nutritionist and see what might be best for her. And don't try and keep it a secret, tell her, be open. Tell her you can't just watch her eat herself to death, and she needs to be healthy and you're doing this because you love her. As for your son and her relationship, it really sounds like they could be in need of some counseling. LOTS of therapists offer family therapy, and it can be great for working out issues like this is they just can't seem to do it on their own. If your son and daughter don't want to, make them. It's not nearly as bad as they think it will be, and it's for their own good. And YOU are the parent, so it's your decision to make, not theirs. I wish you and your family the best of luck with everything. <3
Reply from Jocelyn - 06/20/09 - IP#: 96.51.84.xxx To help your daughter lose weight, your entire household needs to change. Get rid of all the junk food in the house. If it is not there, then she can't eat it. It is alright if she loves to eat, but if you give her healthy snacks then she will learn to be satisfied with that. Start cooking healthy meals as well. No more fast food! Also, go on a walk with her every night. Adjust to this change slowly, you don't want to shock her. If you change gradually, she may not even notice that it is happening
