From john, Child's Age 12 - 07/04/09 - IP#: 69.123.175.xxx Click here to reply
taylor, what i meant by act, is that we all know the opinions of our kids, and how they will feel. for instance, if one of the children who likes to eat goes on here, they will probably encourage the parent to let their child eat anything. and as for my daughter, she has not eaten this extreme her whole life, just now, i guess because of puberty or something. i do not sense the reason of why you continue to argue about my posts. truly, if you have a problem, maybe you should not go on this board. my daughter has a serious weight problem, and i am trying to get her help. i mean this in the kindest way possible, that i am not trying to start a fight, and i realize neither are you. some people really do create fake posts for some sort of cheap thrill, or something. also, my daughter has been changing her mind alot about what she wants to do, i assume she might have gotten a little teased at school, but she likes to eat. thank you for your concern. -john-
Reply from Taylor, Age 16 - 07/04/09 - IP#: 75.66.40.xxx I think it's kind of crappy when parents say they "know" how their kid feels and what they think, because honestly it doesn't sound like you comunicate well with her at ALL and on her behalf, you need to understand, you DON'T KNOW. You don't. Bottom-line. You can have empathy for how she feels, but you don't know how she feels, you can ask her why she does this, but unless you really sit down and have a heart to heart, she won't tell you. Likewise, I have seen very few kids on here who have EVER given a parent bad advice. I have eating issues myself, and I'm not telling you to let her, I know that's not the best for her. I've also undergone existence therapy for a slew lof issues, my parents only made worse... they tried to help, but they didn't take the time or make the effort to do it RIGHT. I know more about what your child is going through than you probably ever will, and I think you're going about this the wrong way. Puberty doesn't make you eat much more to be honest... slight amount, cravings sometimes, but mostly the hormones during puberty cause females to store more fat in order to ready their bodies for child bearing. The excessive eating your daughter is doing cannot be blamed on puberty, so you need to address this illness as just that... an illness. First, get hormone panels done, have other tests done, and make sure there is nothing PHYSICAL causes excessive hunger. If everything comes back clean, then take her to a psychiatrist, get her evaluated, get her in therapy, find out the real problem, get her on medication if need, perhaps into a psychiatric program of some sort. Take her to a nutritionist, sign her up for a gym, find some kind of fun activity for her that's active and keeps her away from food. (Something like a sports team, or in some places they even have gyms geared towards teens and preteens which are more upbeat and fun than the typical adult gym.) If you're really here for help, if you're really serious about, take my advice. You can't go wrong there. Getting medical professionals involved ensures this will be done RIGHT and cannot fail. If you're serious, I'm sorry I doubted you. But you just don't seem to be doing anything to help her, right now, because this has gotten to far out of hand for you to handle on your own. If you need anymore advice, though you clearly don't think highly of my opinion, I know far more on this subject than most, email me at jump_rope_rox@yahoo.com
