From Samantha, Age 15 - 04/26/10 - IP#: 92.232.133.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Ht. 5'3", Start: 196 lb, Today: 196 lb (BMI %tile: 98), Goal: 154 lb - I'm 15 years of age, and so far my weight has just been going up + up. Ive felt so down lately because of how big im getting, its my 16th soon + i cant even wear a dress. I was wondering if anyone has gone threw bullying because of their weight, and if they have gotten over it because i havent been able to. Any advice?
Reply From Ally13, Age 22 - 04/26/10 - IP#: 74.92.246.xxx show message replied to go to original board
When I was growing up, there were definitely people around who made comments about my weight or would compare me to my twin sister (who was tiny!), etc., and let me tell you, every comment HURT. I can still remember crying sometimes just because I felt so ugly and fat and I'd used to dream about looking like the rest of my friends.
In my experience, no, I've never gotten OVER them per se. Remembering some of those comments made about me still hurt sometimes, but here's the thing...while they hurt, it's more of a childhood hurt that I'm remembering. It's the feeling of inadequacy I felt, like I was an outcast in a way. I still had friends, etc., but I was never THAT girl that every guy wanted to date, and that hurts when you're a teenager and all you want is acceptance. You grow up though...you leave high school behind, you forge your own way in the world, you make yourself into a... (view more)When I was growing up, there were definitely people around who made comments about my weight or would compare me to my twin sister (who was tiny!), etc., and let me tell you, every comment HURT. I can still remember crying sometimes just because I felt so ugly and fat and I'd used to dream about looking like the rest of my friends.
In my experience, no, I've never gotten OVER them per se. Remembering some of those comments made about me still hurt sometimes, but here's the thing...while they hurt, it's more of a childhood hurt that I'm remembering. It's the feeling of inadequacy I felt, like I was an outcast in a way. I still had friends, etc., but I was never THAT girl that every guy wanted to date, and that hurts when you're a teenager and all you want is acceptance. You grow up though...you leave high school behind, you forge your own way in the world, you make yourself into a unique and special person and eventually you realize that not everything is about looks and body size. The real world, outside of high school, is so much more than how many guys asked you to prom, whether or not you can wear the 'in' clothing style that all of the size 2 girls are wearing, etc. It may not seem that way now because you're 15 and that's understandable because, while you may realize things change after high school, you're STILL IN high school and you have to deal with all of this on an ongoing basis, but I promise, it does change once you're out of school.
Right now what you need to focus on is making yourself into the type of person you want other people to see. If you want to lose weight because that makes you feel better about yourself then do it, but don't do it for everyone else. More importantly than body image though, make your personality something to be proud of.
There are countless teens who are or have been exactly where you're at. I know what you're going through and it hurts just to think of someone else having to feel the same things I did as a teenager, but you'll get through it and you'll come out a better, more empathetic person for it. =) (view less)
From Mr. Inspiration, Age 18 - 05/25/01 - IP#: 208.40.42.xxx go to original board
I just wanted to tell all you out their who say that "you just cant stop eating" that YOU CAN! I was really overweight from ages 12-16, and when I say overweight I mean it! I cant tell you exact pounds, or how tall I was becasue I was embarressed to go to a doctor, I was embarressed to look in a mirror(I broke one in my house out of anger), and worst of all I was embarressed to go outside where other could see me. Than I finally was sick of being teased, and feeling sorry for myself. One day I just took that pluge and setteled into a strict diet and exersize. I was one of you, I told myself I would never stop eating, that I cant, I love to eat. When I finally slimmed down to a healthy weight It was the best feeling I have ever felt. If any of you need to talk about your problems feel free to e-mil me at: industrial_rat@yahoo.com I have plenty of stories and words of encouragement. You cant loose weight!!! Trust me!!
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