From Alice, Age 13 - 09/05/01 - IP#: 213.123.122.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My friend is overweight, occording to the site calculator thingy (She is 13, is about 4foot 6inches and weighs 112lbs) I think she is perfect the way she is, but lately she has been getting really depressed. I need to cheer her up, but I don't know how to go about it - I think that I might hurt her feelings. Can anyone suggest what I should do?...Talk to her?...Not talk to her?...Ignore her?...Tell her she looks great?...Please help!!
Reply From Maggie, Age 13 - 09/07/01 - IP#: 24.222.160.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I think you need to help your friend. Do you go to McDonald's sometimes or another greasy food place together? Next time, go to Subway or a healthy alternative. When you want to go out and do something, you can ride your bike, go for walks, whatever you like! You can make the difference in her life...
Reply From maggie, Age 13 - 08/28/01 - IP#: 24.222.160.xxx show message replied to go to original board
It's good you are concerned about your friend! Well things you could do with her to help her would be instead of going to a movie and munching on snacks, go biking or roller blading. My friends and I go biking all the time and it's really fun! You can also go to the gym together, play some games of basketball or whatever other sport. Just try to add some exercise into her life, and stay away from fast food restaurants! Good luck! :)
From Katherine, Age 14 - 07/25/01 - IP#: 63.26.194.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Me again, I need a e-mail lose weight partner. I do not care who it is as long as they are able to pull me along with them. Anyways, Do you know what makes me sick!? Is when girls from school, who are like a size zero, say "I am so FAT". What does that make me!? An elephant? All the guys I know (who are my best buds) have said I would look cute if I lost weight. My mom says every guy would have to hunt me down. I like it when guys pay attention to me but I am so overweight. One day I would love to go into a fashionable store and get the hottest clothes out. Without the embaressment of not finding my size. Does anyone have tips? Also, when I say I am on a diet my friends always invite to a movie then to a fast food restaurunt. It is so tempting!! Have you ever had a picture of yourself skinny and you looked so good? I have a dream but it seems impossible to attain it!
Reply From Shannan, Age 16 - 08/04/01 show message replied to go to original board
I totally understand. i am dieting right now and go everywhere with my friends like burger king and stuff. when they eat i juts imagine being really skinny, wearing cool clothes and i feel better about not having my favorites. email me
From Laura, Age 14 - 07/22/01 - IP#: 62.31.65.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Hi all, this is gonna be a long message, but I really need to say it all. Ok, way back at the beginning of May, I was 150lbs, well, over a 3 day trip to London I put on 7lbs, and my gain has continued, and I'm now 214!!! And, the worst bit, (well, second worst actually) is that all my friends are thin: Alissa - 98lbs, Sam - 121lbs Suanne - 117lbs Chris(tina) - 134lbs and Cat - 126lbs. But I used to be the fittest of them all, now I sometimes have difficulty getting out of chairs! But the worst bit is (I want your opinions on this) is that I think that one of my friends is making me fat on purpose. Cos whenever I ring her up and ask if she'd like to come to the gym, she'll say nah, come wih me into town and then she'll buy us both HUGE meals at McDonald's or somewhere, and then hardly touch hers and give them all to me. And whenever I'm at her house, there are tonnes of snacks lying about, and they'e all my favourites! So, anyway, thats my story. Laura (laura669@altavista.com)
Reply From Leila, Age 14 - 07/22/01 show message replied to go to original board
Ohhh..the same thing happens with my friend Erin. She's like 105 pounds, pretty tiny. And she'd always fix me HUGE meals, and she wouldnt eat hers and offer it to me. I don't know if your friend is doing that on purpose or if that's just what your thinking from all of it. But if she turns you down to go to the gym, and asks you to go out, tell her no, that you really do need to go. Or if you do decide to go out, pick out your own meal, something not too heavy, and eat realllllly slow, so you will get full faster and not want to eat as much.
From Maia, Age 12 - 06/25/01 - IP#: 64.160.45.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I used to be on steroids for a disease i have. The steroids increase appetite and make your face chubby. I had no control over my appetite. Unlike a lot of what is said here, they were not cravings, it was hunger. I always used to come home crying because people called me fat and I had no control over it. I was 12 years old, 5'0" and 125 lbs, which is quite overweight for someone who normally weighs 87 lbs. When I refused to take the steroids I threw up nonstop for days! But I preferred that over being fat. Luckily I found another medicine, and now I am cured! But I can't seem to lose the weight. I don't eat much at all and I exercise some but I weigh 107 lbs and I weighed 87 lbs before the steroids! I am so ashamed of my weight and I have to wear clothes I don't like just so that my fat doesn't show! When looking at the site it says eat less, but if I eat any less I will not get enough vitamins! Does anyone have any advice?
Reply From Kerri, Age 15 - 06/25/01 show message replied to go to original board
I had a similar problem.
My friends and i made a sort of ''club'' where we would make sure each other exercised and ate healthy...not starving our selves.
Try it!
(or a good thing to do for motivation is to get your parents to pay you $1 every pound you lose..if they will)
From brq, Age 13 - 06/20/01 - IP#: 65.25.231.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
hi i am 144 lb and 5'8" im not that fat but i hav a belly and soft thighs. it bothers me when i go swimmin @ my friend's house, because hes like 130 and i hav a belly and am 15 lbs fatter than him. i had to borrow his swim suit once and it was too small and i looked really chubby. id like to lose 2-3 lbs but exercise is hard. thanx
Reply From hearts, Age 14 - 06/21/01 show message replied to go to original board
If this is any help....I had a huge crush just recently on a guy who sounds kinda like yourself and even though im a little bit heavier, im not fat and i have plenty of my own admirers but the point is, I liked someone who had a very very pudgy stomach and i still thought he was hot......dont give up!!!!!
From Elizabeth, Age 16 - 05/15/01 - IP#: 211.216.216.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Hey.. ppl I am not like fat or anything but I just dont like the way I look in some clothes and stuff. and alot of my friends are like bones and I feel like a monster next to them does anyone else have this problem?
Reply From Melissa, Age 15 - 05/18/01 show message replied to go to original board
Yeah I totally know what you mean, I get it too...What I've found is that I have to stop comparing myself to other people, and it might help you to do it too.. I know its hard when all your friends walk around like sticks and ya feel fat (cause thats what I feel like), but you've gotta realise that its not HOW you look, but WHO you are that they're going to like.. of course you have to respect your body, by eating healthy and excersising and stuff..So try and find the good aspects of YOUR body, instead of everyone elses:)
From Kara, Age 13 - 01/13/01 - IP#: 172.139.73.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I have always been really overweight, since I was a baby. I do try to diet but I just end up eating everythig insight. I really want a boyfriend but no-one seems interested, because of my appearance. They just assume that I'm a lazy slob pigging out on everything I see. I weigh about 150 pounds. We had to do this test with the school nurse where she weighs you and tells you if your healthy. She was really shocked when she saw how much I weighed and it was so embarrassing coz my two friends were there as well. I just want to go on a healthy diet which will work. Any suggestions??
Reply From K8, Age 14 - 04/01/01 show message replied to go to original board
Hey hun,
You say that you want a boyfriend, that's great but a guy should like you for who you are not what you look like yeah it would be nice to look great cus that is people's first impression of you, but let me tell you again it is what's in your heart and head not how skinny you are. But the key to losing weight is love your self and eat like it. Just eat what feels good not what tastes good. Eat cus you are hungary not because it tastes good. Just keep trying you can do it.
From Stephanie, Age 14 - 02/23/01 - IP#: 206.65.190.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I am 14 and weigh about 200-10 pounds. I need to know how to lose this holiday fat (i gained about 20 pounds since November, don't know how..) I cannot fit into the clothes we bought 2 weeks ago. EMBARASSING STORY ALERT! Have you ever ripped every seam and button off your favorite shirt? I was in a friend's room changing into my fav outfit- capri pants and a pink/blue camouflage shirt. My stomach was bulging out of my brand new capris already, so i chose the long top to try to cover it. Fat was rolling over the top, so I pulled them up higher. I went to put the shirt on, I noticed it was a little snug in the arms. When I went to button it, I thought my mom had shrunken the shirt because it didn't fit right. After buttoning all the buttons, I bent over to pick up my other clothes, the whole shirt burst into shreds with buttons flying! At the same time, my friend's twin sister walked in and thought i was a stranger. She knocked my unconscious without a shirt on. Then their snobby older sister came in and poked and prodded my stomach, which had made the zipper and button come undone. When i woke up, there was a note on my huge belly. "Lose weight, fat bitch! You made the house shake, and the ground sink. No wonder you can't fit into your clothes! I looked at your food records! 200 pounds is fat for your age! Go eat your 200 course meals!" I never went there again. I have since gained weight because of depression, and tried everything to keep it off, but just gain more. Now when I see Krystal in the halls she says "Boom, Boom, Boom. Here comes another earthquake!", "Baby wanna twinkie?", and "Jiggle Steph, Jiggle who? Jiggle Steph, Jiggle who?". ANOTHER STORY! Have you ever heard the parody of "thong song", "Please don't wear that thong"? I was at a pool party that I really didn't want to be @, but my crush was there so I went. We were all jamming to the "thong song", and he changed the song. All of a sudden we heard "Stephanie this is for you." I thought it was sweet, since he had been casually staring at me, and passing me sweet notes at school. "OOH, THAT DRESS TOO SMALL 4 U, LOOKS LIKE YOU GAINED ANOTHER POUND OR 2... YOU LIKE TO EAT AT ALL THE ICE CREAM SHOPS, THEN YOU CRUISE TO THE MALL FOR SOME DIPPIN DOTS... I HATE TO TELL YOU BUT I TOLDJA SO, BEEN WATCHING THAT TUMMY GROW... SHE HAD A BIG OL BUTT, BUTT, BUTT, THIGHS LIKA TRUCK (3X), BIG FAT GUT, PLEASE DON'T WEAR THAT THONG"... i burst into tears, and went home... eating in my depression 6 Zingers, 10 twinkies, and 50 packs of kit kats. HELP
Reply From Ashley, Age 12 - 03/11/01 show message replied to go to original board
I know what it's like. My own cousin teases me about my wait. Instead of taking what people tell you and eating go out and run or do some physical activity. When you have the urge to eat think about the mean things your friends have said and close the refridgerator. It soulds weird but it works. The hardest thing for me was cutting out the candy and ice cream but now I am losing weight. For meals eat Healthy choice stuff. Only eat when you are absolutly hungry. If you want more detailed stuff e-mail me at adavies@writeme.com.
From nessa, Age 12 - 11/08/00 - IP#: 198.26.123.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
hey guys im a short 5'0 girl that wighs 140 lbs. i want to know if anyone knows any way 2 loss weight instead of diets ive tried and tried 2 loose weight its hard i remeber i use 2 weigh 150 i wenyt 2 132 but now im back at 140 its soooo hard. i get soo fed up that i either eat alot or dont even eat but the thing is i really dont eat alot! i know im into the mc donalds and stuff but thats not all the time. i really wanna lose weight becaus i need a guy its hard 2 get a guy with my looks. i have dated guys but like for 3 or 4 days. just its hard everyone holding hands in school wit someone and kissing and me with no one. right now my ex bf said he didnt miss out anything but just a bunch of fat!come one u know how much that hurt me! just please help me i want to look good next year for my 8th grade dance i want people to be liek omg she looks hot! so can u guys help me please *need help*
Reply From Hollie, Age 19 - 11/28/00 show message replied to go to original board
I am 5ft 2 and I wiegh 140lbs. Don't feal bad. Guys like girls with meat on their bones. So look in mirror and be happy with yourself. Most guys might think you look great. I get compliments all the time, and I am confident with myself. It doesn't bother me that I am not super model skinny.I'm a size 10-12. Like many girls I was once unhappy with my body.
From nessa, Age 12 - 11/08/00 - IP#: 198.26.123.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
hey guys im a short 5'0 girl that wighs 140 lbs. i want to know if anyone knows any way 2 loss weight instead of diets ive tried and tried 2 loose weight its hard i remeber i use 2 weigh 150 i wenyt 2 132 but now im back at 140 its soooo hard. i get soo fed up that i either eat alot or dont even eat but the thing is i really dont eat alot! i know im into the mc donalds and stuff but thats not all the time. i really wanna lose weight becaus i need a guy its hard 2 get a guy with my looks. i have dated guys but like for 3 or 4 days. just its hard everyone holding hands in school wit someone and kissing and me with no one. right now my ex bf said he didnt miss out anything but just a bunch of fat!come one u know how much that hurt me! just please help me i want to look good next year for my 8th grade dance i want people to be liek omg she looks hot! so can u guys help me please *need help*
Reply From Ariel, Age 14 - 11/13/00 show message replied to go to original board
I don't want guys to notice me because I look good, but I know what you mean about losing weight being hard. You have to have the will power and really want to lose weight to do so. I started an exercise program from a magazine called JUMP. In every issue they have something about exercising and people like us losing weight. Maybe it'll help. I've lost six pounds so far, and I haven't put it back on. That's the important part. Don't rush your weight loss. If you do it slowly, you probably won't put it back on again. Also, drink a lot of water. It helps! Honest!
Just remember that people who make fun of you aren't people who would be good friends. They're people who are judgemental. Don't ever be that way. Well, good luck! :)
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