From Annalise, Age 34 - 08/08/02 - IP#: 67.82.119.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My daughter Laurie is 14 years old and 5'8" she weighs 140 lbs... thats a good weight for her. But she doesnt like it. And the only exercise i can ge her to do is dance or cheerleading which is good but expensive and she wont even do it with me ... jus with friends. I want to help her but i dont know what more i can do. She has a friend who weighs 127 and she wishes she could look like her all the time. Please reply ... I need some diet ideas for her or else im afraid she might never be happy. its difficult for her as a cheerleader and dancer to be this tall and weigh this much when girls she interacts with are sometimes shorter and weigh anywhere from 80-120 lbs.
Reply From Ann, Age 16 - 08/09/02 - IP#: 66.69.73.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hi, I know how you must feel about your daughter's happiness, but I must say don't feed into it, I mean, don't try to get her a diet, or more excercise or say anything at ALL regarding her wieght or how she looks, PLEASE believe me in that it will backfire and she'll develop an eating disorder, I know because it has happened with me. Don't think that it can't happen with your daughter or isn't happening because us teens can hide it extremely well for long periods of time. She is fine with the weight she is and is perfectly normal, her happiness needs to come from being happy with herself, what might be a healthy wieght for some can be dangerous and deadly for others, everybody's different.
From oh boy, Age 15 - 07/28/02 - IP#: 152.163.188.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
i cant seem to lose the weight im 5'8 and weigh 209. My parents give me food for every time i do some thing good like take out the trash to vacuming i have to eat it because i don't want to hurt ther fellings but every time i lose weight they are happy but they reward me wit you guessed it food. My little brother lets me eat his food because in my family we don't waste food as my mom would say any help
Reply From Patrick, Age 11 - 08/04/02 - IP#: 24.167.7.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Instead of getting food for doing good things, ask your parents to give you an allowance instead.
From Carla, Age 42 - 07/04/02 - IP#: 66.188.231.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I am not quite sure what to do with my daughter. you kids are her age so maybe you can help. She is 13 and about 5 foot 6. And today she weighed herself and she weighs about 180. Last month she weighed 175. I guess she gained some weight. But is this a little or a lot overweight? I dont' want to say anything to her since i might be wrong. Or should i take her to the doctor? She doesn't like going to the doctor. She hates it. But i may be able to get her to go if it is something i should do. She does have a bit of a stomach. She has about a 38 inch waist and wears a size 16. Can someone please help me out?
Reply From Rose, Age 16 - 07/10/02 - IP#: 65.71.34.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I am 16 years old and I weight about 200lbs 5'6,I am over weight,but I dont feel fat.I learn to accept myself.To tell you the truth don't put your daughter down about her weight, instead take her out for a walk or something.If you help her she'll have more motivation and someone to be with her each step of the way.Good luck
From MarieLynn, Age 35 - 06/16/02 - IP#: 67.82.119.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My daughter is 13 almost 14 years old. She is a very active cheerleader dancer and swimmer but when she hits the off season shes gains a little bit of weight (no more than 10 lbs) Anyway Laurie is 5'7" and a half and she weighs about 141 I know she is at a good weight but she doesnt like it. She has very skinny friends who all weigh about 120 at the most and wear size 3 jeans in juniors my daughter wears a size 7. I tried to explain to her that she is not overweight that she doesnt need to diet anymore but she wont listen. She has bough Slimfast with her own money and she can NEVER stop looking at the scale or the mirror. She really wants to lose weight before she enters high school, but most of it is still that baby fat. Please give me some advice i don't know if i should just let her diet or make her stop because i dont want her to ruin herself. Does anyone have any safe diets that could help her? She would like to weigh 120
Reply From Christine, Age 16 - 06/22/02 - IP#: 68.100.130.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I agree that you shouldn't forbid her to diet. My parents did this to me, and they just became the enemy. I would do all kinds of things to hide my dieting from them, which ended up hurting me in the long run. Maybe you could compromise with your daughter, and she could lose a little weight, but not 20lbs. Just a thought!
From MarieLynn, Age 35 - 06/16/02 - IP#: 67.82.119.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My daughter is 13 almost 14 years old. She is a very active cheerleader dancer and swimmer but when she hits the off season shes gains a little bit of weight (no more than 10 lbs) Anyway Laurie is 5'7" and a half and she weighs about 141 I know she is at a good weight but she doesnt like it. She has very skinny friends who all weigh about 120 at the most and wear size 3 jeans in juniors my daughter wears a size 7. I tried to explain to her that she is not overweight that she doesnt need to diet anymore but she wont listen. She has bough Slimfast with her own money and she can NEVER stop looking at the scale or the mirror. She really wants to lose weight before she enters high school, but most of it is still that baby fat. Please give me some advice i don't know if i should just let her diet or make her stop because i dont want her to ruin herself. Does anyone have any safe diets that could help her? She would like to weigh 120
Reply From Debbie, Age 14 - 06/22/02 - IP#: 152.163.205.xxx show message replied to go to original board
my suggestion is to stop telling her she is perfect. my mom used to do this and it only made me want to be skinnier because no matter what she said, i still felt like she was just sayn that b/c she was my mom. tell her that if she ants to loose some weight that you guys could do it together. go to the gym or for walks together. try to get her mind off the scale and onto spending some time with her mom. my mom and i have been doing this and we r alot closer and we support each other when we have setbacks. i hope ive helped a lil bit.
From Donna, Age 32 - 05/21/02 - IP#: 64.12.104.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I am writing for my daughter Maegan. She is 6 yrs old and is 4'1" and weighs 77 lbs. I always thought she was just a "big" girl, but now I realize that she is overweight. About 1 1/2 wks ago, I started limiting her food portions and bought all healthly low fat foods. We also started exersizing everydday for at least 30 minutes. She is trying so hard but she hasnt lost an ounce and it is discouraging her! She get on the scale and it still say 77, and she cries! what should I do!
Reply From Dani, Age 17 - 06/20/02 - IP#: 24.169.204.xxx show message replied to go to original board
She's onyl 6 years old...she has baby fat she is still considered a baby, it is good you are excerizing to get her to understand a healthy lifestyle, watch what she eats, just limit the junk food. Always complement her and dont' have her stand on a scale all the time. Just tell ehr to keep her head up and to stay happy!
From MarieLynn, Age 35 - 06/16/02 - IP#: 67.82.119.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My daughter is 13 almost 14 years old. She is a very active cheerleader dancer and swimmer but when she hits the off season shes gains a little bit of weight (no more than 10 lbs) Anyway Laurie is 5'7" and a half and she weighs about 141 I know she is at a good weight but she doesnt like it. She has very skinny friends who all weigh about 120 at the most and wear size 3 jeans in juniors my daughter wears a size 7. I tried to explain to her that she is not overweight that she doesnt need to diet anymore but she wont listen. She has bough Slimfast with her own money and she can NEVER stop looking at the scale or the mirror. She really wants to lose weight before she enters high school, but most of it is still that baby fat. Please give me some advice i don't know if i should just let her diet or make her stop because i dont want her to ruin herself. Does anyone have any safe diets that could help her? She would like to weigh 120
Reply From clare, Age 17 - 06/17/02 - IP#: 195.92.67.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hi MarieLynn
You can't stop your daughter from trying to lose weight and it is almost impossible to convince her that she doesn't need to lose weight (I know this cos my mum is always telling me I don't need to lose weight but I think I do)
What you can do is make sure she knows that to diet isn't the good thing to do but to eat a healthy diet is good.
There is a difference here. To diet is to cut back on foods with the intention of losing weight. To eat a healthy diet is to ensure that you are eating a balanced diet with the correct nutrients to ensure the best health possible, and be eating healthily your daughter may lose weight.
You could suggest to your daughter finding out about good nutrition and work together to try and ensure that you both are eating healthily.
In my opinion this would work better than telling her not to diet and that she doesn't need to... (view more)Hi MarieLynn
You can't stop your daughter from trying to lose weight and it is almost impossible to convince her that she doesn't need to lose weight (I know this cos my mum is always telling me I don't need to lose weight but I think I do)
What you can do is make sure she knows that to diet isn't the good thing to do but to eat a healthy diet is good.
There is a difference here. To diet is to cut back on foods with the intention of losing weight. To eat a healthy diet is to ensure that you are eating a balanced diet with the correct nutrients to ensure the best health possible, and be eating healthily your daughter may lose weight.
You could suggest to your daughter finding out about good nutrition and work together to try and ensure that you both are eating healthily.
In my opinion this would work better than telling her not to diet and that she doesn't need to lose weight. If she is like a lot of teenagers (and I'm by no means saying that we are all like this) if somebody forbids her to do something she will be resentful of that and go out of her way to prove you wrong and that she can still lose weight when told not to.
She should be eating 3 meals a day, plus 8 glasses of water and if she is still hungry she should snack on fruit, carrot/celery sticks or low fat crackers. She should try to eat at least 5 portions of fruit and veg each day and stick to foods that have less than 5grams of fat per serving in them.
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From MarieLynn, Age 35 - 06/16/02 - IP#: 67.82.119.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My daughter is 13 almost 14 years old. She is a very active cheerleader dancer and swimmer but when she hits the off season shes gains a little bit of weight (no more than 10 lbs) Anyway Laurie is 5'7" and a half and she weighs about 141 I know she is at a good weight but she doesnt like it. She has very skinny friends who all weigh about 120 at the most and wear size 3 jeans in juniors my daughter wears a size 7. I tried to explain to her that she is not overweight that she doesnt need to diet anymore but she wont listen. She has bough Slimfast with her own money and she can NEVER stop looking at the scale or the mirror. She really wants to lose weight before she enters high school, but most of it is still that baby fat. Please give me some advice i don't know if i should just let her diet or make her stop because i dont want her to ruin herself. Does anyone have any safe diets that could help her? She would like to weigh 120
Reply From Kate, Age 14 - 06/17/02 - IP#: 203.9.148.xxx show message replied to go to original board
I'm sorry, but i don't have a diet. All advice i could add is, to tell her not to diet, but just to maybe do some more exercise, because if she exercises when she doesn't have cheerleading, she won't put on weight.
Also whenever you start saying things like, 'your not fat' and 'its just baby fat' A barrier just forms in her head, making her think 'mums lying'. (trust me, my mum used to say the same things to me)
From Mother of Tina, Age 42 - 06/10/02 - IP#: 66.188.231.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
My daughter Tina is 13. The last time i checked her height she was 5 foot 6. And today she was in my room and she weighed herself and then left. We have a digital scale and i looked at it and it read 173 pounds. Is that overweight for a teenager of her age and height? She does have a bit of a stomach. I was hoping some of you could answer since you are the same age as her. Thank you if you can.
Reply From Michelle, Age 14 - 06/11/02 - IP#: 63.168.31.xxx show message replied to go to original board
It is a bit over weight, but you have to remember that she is a teenager and her weight will flucuate, and she will start, or already may have, some negative thoughts about her body. I know I did. Whe I was 12 (5'1") I weighed 175 pounds so I decided to take matters into my own hands. I am now 150 pounds (5'2") but I have a very negative body image, and I also have the genetics in my family to be overweight which really didn't help, cause I had nobody to compare myself to to get skinny. I am still fighting my weight and negative body image. The most important thing you can do for you daughter is to help her see that she is beautiful, and fully back her if SHE wants to change. You need to be the role model. I know I would have probably never gotten to 175 pounds if my family was active and into sports. Go walking together, cook healthy meals together. Just be together and she will tell YOU what SHE wants to do about HER body.
From Chaz, Age 13 - 05/23/02 - IP#: 208.59.181.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Last week we went to San Fransisco on vacation. All my little brother (7) did was eat, watch T.V. and eat for 7 days. When we left he was 110 lbs, and when we came back he was 142 lbs!!! Thats more than me!!! I gained weight too, up from 128 to 140!!! I checked out my brothers BMI on this site and it was 40.0 he is suposed to weigh 63lbs max. , so he's 89 lbs overweight. My dad scheduled an appointment at the doc's tommorrow, I'll give out the info tomm. Thank you, Chaz
Reply From John, Age 13 - 06/05/02 - IP#: 195.93.49.xxx show message replied to go to original board
woah, the same thinghappened to me, I went on holiday weighing 121lbs and came back 147lbs, my school trousers literaly burst at school, i was so inbarresed, but i've lost some weight. You and your brother should become weight loss partners. both set yourselves goals.
From Mark, Age 16 - 06/04/02 - IP#: 205.188.197.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I have a 13 year old sister and she is extremely overweight. She's only 5'2" and around 200 pounds. She lets her belly hang out and doesn't care. It's kinda disgusting. During the summer, she comes down stairs in her underware, sits on the couch and just watched tv and eats all day. I want to help her, but she never listens to me. She also has dark red strech marks on her belly and arms. Someone please give me advice on what to do. vegettossj85@yahoo.com, Thanks.
Reply From Branden, Age 13 - 06/04/02 - IP#: 67.80.49.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Dear Mark, I think that maybe you should try to stress to your sister that instead of just sitting on the couch and doing nothing, that she can do some simple exercises while she is watching tv. you could also try to help her substitue all the junk food she is eating, for healthier foods along with water.
From ????, Age 13 - 05/06/02 - IP#: 63.136.117.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
I was a track star a year ago but then i started to put on weight not much but i did like 3 or 4 pounds so it slowed me down a little so then i got tired real quick and then gained 10 pounds and weighed 115 at 4'7. So my time decreased rapidly and i got kicked off the track team Know that i'm 13 and am 5'3 i weigh 207 lbs and gain by the day but my grandma is not helpin she says i'm a growin boy and feeds me more and more, know i'm the ridicule of the school and can't stop some1 helpppp.
Reply From nobody, Age 11 - 05/20/02 - IP#: 216.166.212.xxx show message replied to go to original board
My teacher read this book called, Jelly Belly, and he had a grandma that did the same thing. All you need to do is say something like, I want you to stop giving me treats. I'm fat. Start giving me vegetables and fruits in my lunchbox. {this kinda came from the book, so don't take it as me picking on you}
From Chaz, Age 13 - 05/14/02 - IP#: 209.122.231.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
This is not about me. I need help too, but it's my 7 year old brother that weighs 110 lbs and is only 4'4". He has a BMI of 28.7 and is supposed to weigh 68 lbs, that makes him 42 lbs overwieght. Is that obese??? He just eats and plays Playstation. He never does his chores. When we eat dinner he eats more than me and I'm almost twice his age!! On incident I remamber is when my dad made burgers and fries, I had one and a 1/2 and a spoonful of fries, while James, had 3 burgers, 4 spoons of fries, and 2 slices of cake after (which I didn't want). I have heard yellin some nights from the kitchen. Dad to James, I think he was down there eating fattening food. I need help, my Dad tries to make him diet, but my mom lets him eat, and eat, and eat ect. Plz Help!!!
Reply From Tori, Age 14 - 05/20/02 - IP#: 208.187.65.xxx show message replied to go to original board
i`ve never had anyone in my family with problems like that.but instead of getting fatty food products get stuff like 30% less fat in chips or extra extra lean hamburgermeat,ect.and also ask if you him if he ever wants to go to the park and walk to it. Good Luck!
Tori
if you need anything e-mail me at princess_of_you2@yahoo.com!
From Blake, Age 14 - 05/09/02 - IP#: 198.64.164.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
Me and my brother are both overweight. I am 5'8" and 190 lbs, and he is 5' and 140 lbs. He is 9. We both wear size 34 pants, sometimes I have to go up to 36. My dad is thin. He is 6' and 170 lbs. He wears 32 pants. When he took me and my brother shopping for dress clothes, he yelled at us when he had to buy bigger clothes for us than what he wears. What can me and my brother do to not be so fat anymore?
Reply From Kat, Age 13 - 05/10/02 - IP#: 216.209.143.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Blake try not to let your weight problem get to you. You should try talking to your dad and telling him it hurts your feelings when he yells at you for being overweight. Try talking to Jenna, I should too, actually. Also, if you don't already play some sports, especially now that it's summer. Soccer and ~swimming~ are great excercise! Good luck!
From Chaz, Age 13 - 05/05/02 - IP#: 208.59.181.xxx hide message replied to go to original board
This one is about me. I weigh 125 lbs. and I know I am not that overwieght but I still am a little. I have 3 rolls and I love to wear jeans, but when I sit down, my stomach curls and expands and my button pops. I don't want to tell any one. I am a boy, and I am ashamed because most of my excess wieght is on my hips and my butt and my thighs. I only have a small stomach but a gigantic butt. I have been trying to cut my porios and not snack at nigh or through the day and I lost 5 pounds but then took back on 6! Plus, our house is ussually stocked with VERY fattening foods like Fudge Rounds, OREO's cakes pizza and that Stoffer's Mac & Cheese. Please help. Thanxs, Chaz
Reply From nicola, Age 14 - 05/05/02 - IP#: 67.34.31.xxx show message replied to go to original board
Hey Chaz, i know how yo feel, Until you loose the weight for you to feel comfortable, try and sit straight and not slouch, because then you stomach will be pulled back and you shouldn't have to worry to much. I have the exact problem, but i am a little buit more over weight than you. Ask you parents to sop buying all those food, and chioose healthier foods, like vegetables, and chicken, instead of steak and red meats, they contain lots more fat. I have an automatic reaction to go to the friedge and look through it. I have made some silly (but useful) reminders around they house, where i sit, sleep, and work, that help me not to look there! Well i hope this may help, you can email if you would like some more advice, i'mm not so sure, i have anygood stuff, but it may make you feel better. Thanks Nik. e-mail: snufflewuffle87@hotmail.com
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