From Erm.., Age 13 - 08/20/05 - IP#: 24.254.246.xxx  Click here to reply  
Ht. 5'0", Wt. 120 - Yeah, one of my friends is sort of heavy, and she says that she needs to lose 20lbs before school starts. I'm kinda worried, because she DOES need to lose weight *above stats* but I don't want to tell her that yes, she's overweight, she needs to go lose weight. How can I help discreetly?
Reply from Megan, Age 15 - 08/21/05  - IP#: 64.186.198.xxx
Well i think first off u are starting off in the wrong direction i dont mean to be rude but you must of rolled over on the wrong side of the bed becaue your thinking of this all wrong...i also have a friend who in retrospect is "overweight" but i dont think of wow she really needs to loose some weight i mean their are other things in life that matter more i think you need to think more along the lines of is she doing this for herself or others and is she doing it healthy or unhealthy see your heart is in the right place but really imean i weigh just as much as you do and and our situations are pretty much the same but just try to encourage your friend i mean confidence is the key ...if the most beautiful women in the world was self concious then no man would go for her. I do think that you should be honest with your friend but in a more reluctant way for example: your friend come up to you and says hey i lost 6lbs, wow thats awesome im so proud you and you look really good great job....instead of yea thats good you really did need to loose some weight i mean no one wants to hear that as much as they might say they dont mind theres a difference in being homest and being rude
 
Reply from Ellison, Age 13 - 08/20/05  - IP#: 24.254.246.xxx
Thanks for all the help!
 
Reply from lola, Age 15 - 08/20/05  - IP#: 81.129.105.xxx
wel say to her if you really want to lose weight then she can but also tell her its really unhealthy to lose 20lbs before she goes back
 
Reply from ro, Age 20 - 08/20/05  - IP#: 132.216.21.xxx
Tell her you are starting an exersize program and you need a buddy. Tell her you are doing it because you want to live long and be healthy and make a list of healthy foods you are gonna eat and offer it to her.
 
Reply from Ellison, Age 13 - 08/20/05  - IP#: 24.254.246.xxx
I don't want her to flip out on me, because she's slightly prone to pill taking.. and I don't want her to being a diet supplement.
 
Reply from N/A - 08/20/05  - IP#: 68.102.14.xxx
Tell them that you are concerned. You want them to live longer, right?