From laura, Age 18 - 02/12/06 - IP#: 69.47.203.xxx Click here to reply
Ht. 5'7", Wt. 209 - I have social anxiety disorder. I constatntly feel like everyone is judgeing me or looking at me and it is very overwhelming. Being overweight certantly does not help. i moved in with my dad who does not understand my anxiety or being overweight. ever since i got here he has been dropping hints to me about weight loss. first i thought i was just being paranoid but the comments became so frequent that there was no denying the point he was trying to get across. telling me to get out of the house and that the exercise would be good for mne and telling me i should join a gym constantly really upsets me. he also comments on my eating. the thing is i do eat healthy, i always have. whenever we go out to eat he assumes that i eat nothing but fast food. then he'll take me to asian restuarants and say things like "if you eat this you'll never gain a pound." just little comments like that on a daily basis are taking a toll on me. i feel like he is constantly judging me. yesterday was a breaking point. he told me that my coat was too small and that we were getting another one. imm not in denile, i know what fits right. im 18 i can pick out the right size of coat. but he took me shopping anyways. i tried on a coat and it was the perfect fit. not too baggy but definitly not to tight. he told me it was way too small so he drug me to another female customer and asked if my coat looked to tight. i was so humilaited and started haveing a panic attack because if you have social anxiety the worst thing u can do is get embarassed in public. the lady agreed with me that it was just right but i was still embaressed. so i put the coat back and said i was done. we got in a littlw fight and he came back with another coat. it was 3 times my size. i was so hurt. i told him it wasn't my size and he asked if it was to small. i again said i was done and he said fine u can get a coat with the buttons buldgin out (which they weren't at all, the front button panal was ruffuled) i said no i didnt want a coat that would embaress him in public and we left. I know i need to lose weight but i don't think that i stand out in a crowd because of it. im curvy, thats how i carry my weight. i want to lose weight for me, not to make him proud of how i look. im just so upset and dont know what to do. when i said i was done coat shopping he said we were going to look for sweat pants becuase i needed to work on joining a gym. any advice?
Reply from laura, Age 18 - 02/17/06 - IP#: 69.47.203.xxx lol, i know it was savanna, i just needed to get ALOT of things off my chest.
Reply from ~s@v@nn@~, Age 14 - 02/17/06 - IP#: 68.96.4.xxx that was VERY VERY VERY VERY long!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply from dan, Age 18 - 02/13/06 - IP#: 72.240.144.xxx This will be hard to sccept but your Dad is 100% correct. You do need to lose weight. He is your father and respect his opinions. Despite what you might think he is implying he is there to encourage you to lose weight. It sounds like you are unhappy, therefore, he wants to make your happier , hence: lose some weight. Dont be so rough on him, just lose some weight and stop being so critcial to his or others' comments.
Reply from Monica, Age 16 - 02/13/06 - IP#: 152.163.101.xxx believe me I understand your pain. The only diffrence is I'm want to lose weight but my mom won't help me. I mean the doctor has told her I'm overweight and she still won't help. I think I have the sam think u got cause when I go out in public I think everyone is talking about me, but i have to say it has gotten better than it was when I was younger. See I wanna lose weight cause I know it would make me feel better about myself not only that but look better, thus the anxieties go away. So decide your reason fo rlosing weight and tell your dad when you're ready you will and to stop tryna force you. cause when that happens 9 out of 10 girls. Just stop eating or go on some unhealthy diet. yeah but I wish you the best of luck. And one thing that keeps me motivated is knowing that summer is coming.
Reply from Sarah, Age 19 - 02/12/06 - IP#: 12.203.133.xxx girl if that was my dad i'd be telling him to kiss my ass and i'm going to a friends house or better yet back to my moms!!! u dont need that crap from him!!! besides parents should NEVER judge u for how u look, but for who u r....god ur dad sounds like a kid in high school making fun of someone with a physical (aka noticable) problem to hide from HIS OWN insecurities! u can e mail me at anytime: pink_princess4u1986@yahoo.com; just please let me know who u r when u do. hope ur dad start treating u more like a human. good luck!
Reply from Lindsey, Age 10 - 02/12/06 - IP#: 207.200.116.xxx No offense, but your dad is realy mean! If you really want him to stop, have a true heart-to-heart with him. If that doesn't help, ask if you can go to a therapist. And who knows, the theripast may talk to your dad too. That'll be a wake-up call for him! Good luck about losing weight and talking to your dad!
Reply from Claire, Age 17 - 02/12/06 - IP#: 69.86.130.xxx Every teenage girl has that whole insecurity, low self esteem thing going on :( I used to weigh 207 lbs also...just like you, I used to get comments but they were more hurtful (more like mocking) and one day I just decided that it was time to take my life into my own hands. Not just to look good but to feel good and to make everyone around me shut up and prove that I could do something they never thought I could. Lose Weight. I started eating healthy and exercising at home, dancing with my door locked to my favorite songs and as the months went on, I saw my weight going down and at first I thought I was delusional but it was real and then I really felt the confidence, I've lost 35 lbs so far...I started on February 15, 2005 and now it's almost about to be a whole year! (my diet anniversery is coming up!:) and I'm so proud of myself and even though I still weigh a lot (172) I'm out of the 200's! I'm on my way to lose another 35 lbs and hopefully reach my goal of 130 lbs! I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK!!!! email me anytime- pecuilarsmile@yahoo.com
Reply from Laura, Age 14 - 02/12/06 - IP#: 67.83.87.xxx omg i totally feel your pain. One time me and my mom got into an argument and she called me fat. I barely forgave her. But you already want to do this for yourself and that's great!! You should stand up to your dad and tell him, i am 18 years old i am a grown women and adult and i can lose weight all on MY own and don't need your embarrsement. and you should want to lose weight for healthy reason not for the way you look . P.S. you can eat anything you want, u need more fat cal to burn more fat...you should post about the whole fat process and u''ll get a lot of replies ...good luck <33
