From Jessica, Child's Age 16 - 02/14/15 - IP#: 86.16.53.xxx Click here to reply
Hello. I'm writing as I'm feeling increasingly powerless about my sons weight. He has always been bigger, probably even obese, when he was younger and I accept full responsibility for it. However, since he hit his teens his weight has continued to rise. He's now over 420lbs (I don't know by how much) and refuses to do any form of exercise or eat anything considered healthy. Of course I've tried simply refusing to give him the food he wants but when I do, he refuses to speak to me until I give in and meanwhile uses his own money (from his part time job which earns him over £50 or $80 a week) to buy fast food for every meal of the day. He's been putting on 4-5 lbs a week so far this year and I'm terrified about how big he could become but have no idea what to do. I'd really appreciate any advice if anyone has ever been in the same situation as doctors haven't been at all helpful so far. As I say I feel completely powerless and I'll take any advice I can get.
Thank you so much for reading.
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From Ava, Child's Age 12 - 02/01/15 - IP#: 24.46.107.xxx Click here to reply
I met the most kind selfless lady yesterday shopping for a dress for my 12 year old daughter for my mothers 70th birthday. We didn't know what size she needed so I asked the associate. My daughter was in the bathroom and I told the associate she was 5'2", but a bit fat, and we didn't know what size she would be. I also told her that my daughter hates shopping. She then said "I think I get it, does she get kind of embarrassed when the matter of size comes up?" So my daughter came out and the associate went up to her and made her a deal, every dress she tried on the associate would try on as well, and if it fit the associate it would be good. ( the associate was about the same size). They started with the first step which was getting measured. For anyone under 13 they take your height and weight rather than waist, hips, and bust. First she measures and weighed my daughter who was 5'2" and ... (view more)I met the most kind selfless lady yesterday shopping for a dress for my 12 year old daughter for my mothers 70th birthday. We didn't know what size she needed so I asked the associate. My daughter was in the bathroom and I told the associate she was 5'2", but a bit fat, and we didn't know what size she would be. I also told her that my daughter hates shopping. She then said "I think I get it, does she get kind of embarrassed when the matter of size comes up?" So my daughter came out and the associate went up to her and made her a deal, every dress she tried on the associate would try on as well, and if it fit the associate it would be good. ( the associate was about the same size). They started with the first step which was getting measured. For anyone under 13 they take your height and weight rather than waist, hips, and bust. First she measures and weighed my daughter who was 5'2" and 176lbs, then she did the same thing
Interestingly she was 5'3" 179lbs, which is very similar to my daughter. According to the chart they were a 17 juniors, so my daughter picked out a 17juniors that she liked. She tried it on and said she thought it was good. Everyone else could tell though that it was too tight. Next the associate tried it on and said "you know I think this one doesn't really fit me, let's try the plus section". So next the went to the plus section and tried on a 16 junior plus which again my daughter thought was good, the associate though said it felt "a bit too snug." So they went to the 18 junior plus. This one fit fine and the associate said it was okay. I can't believe someone would try on all those dresses just to make my daughter feel better. This restored my faith in humanity. (view less)
From Jolene, Child's Age 13 - 01/19/15 - IP#: 72.234.177.xxx Click here to reply
Hello everyone. I posted here last summer about my son John. My husbanded and I adopted him two years ago (he's my husband's cousin's son and had been terribly neglected). John has steadily gained weight and has gone from very underweight to very overweight. He has a huge appetite and all efforts I've made to control his intake have failed because my husband doesn't agree with me and John just loves to eat so much that I don't want to forbid him. He has gone out for wrestling at his Middle School (8th grade) and his weight gain has slowed but not stopped. A week ago when he wrestled he told me he weighed in at 193 (he's about 5 feet 3 inches tall).
My problem and where I need your advice is this: last Thursday my husband and I got called to my son's school because he had been in a fight. We were shocked and when we got to school found that John had a cot his face. It turns out that ... (view more)Hello everyone. I posted here last summer about my son John. My husbanded and I adopted him two years ago (he's my husband's cousin's son and had been terribly neglected). John has steadily gained weight and has gone from very underweight to very overweight. He has a huge appetite and all efforts I've made to control his intake have failed because my husband doesn't agree with me and John just loves to eat so much that I don't want to forbid him. He has gone out for wrestling at his Middle School (8th grade) and his weight gain has slowed but not stopped. A week ago when he wrestled he told me he weighed in at 193 (he's about 5 feet 3 inches tall).
My problem and where I need your advice is this: last Thursday my husband and I got called to my son's school because he had been in a fight. We were shocked and when we got to school found that John had a cot his face. It turns out that John got into a fight with another 9th grade boy. John's explanation is that this boy, who's name is Bill, had been teasing John for months, calling him names about his size and then recently started grabbing John's chest and his rear end and making fun of him for having a big chest and a big rear end like he was a fat girl. John said that on Thursday he had enough and told Bill again to stop and Bill challenged him to fight and so John tackled him using a wrestling move and then they rolled around on the locker room floor exchanging punches. John pinned Bill, who is a skinny boy and told him to yield and Bill didn't and kept on punching at John so John sat on him. Bill started yelling and that's when the P.E. teacher came and broke up the fight.
The problem is that my son is being blamed for the fight! Even though he has witnesses who confirm that Bill had been teasing him and grabbing him, the vice-principal says that John deserves more punishment than Bill because he could have hurt Bill when he sat on him. John has been suspended from wrestling, not school.
My husband and I are very upset. I have a cousin who is a lawyer and I called him today and he's willing to help, saying that John has been the victim of bullying and harassment.
My husband and I have told John we're proud of him for standing up for himself.
We are supposed to meet with the Principal on Thursday (she's out of town right now).
Should we bring our lawyer? Please, tell me what you think about this situation.
I know overweight kids are prone to be picked on and here my son stuck up for himself against a bully and he's being punished. (view less)
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From Debra, Child's Age 11 - 01/03/15 - IP#: 94.12.153.xxx Click here to reply
My child is 196lbs and i am so worried she can't do any exercise because when she does a sit up so can't get back up as she can't hold her own weight and when she tries to do a press up her belly touches the floor and that's when her arms are fully extended well when she says they are but they aren't because she can't. She can't run as she gets out of breath even if she has been doing it for 20 secs!!
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From Mark, Child's Age 15 - 12/26/14 - IP#: 74.90.243.xxx Click here to reply
Hi All,
I posted here a while back (i believe August), and overall my other 3 sons have lost a fair amount of weight. However since I moved to London this summer,my wife and I have noticed that my step-son Mark has put on some weight. Back in New Jersey, he was very athletic and ran cross country. We have noticed that here in the UK he is more depressed and is eating a lot more rubbish from the sweet shop. I find it odd how he didn't like NJ and wanted to desperately go back to England, and now since we are here, he has changed so much. Based on my calculations, he gained roughly 20-25 pounds since my last posting in August. I have booked an appointment with the psychologist, but that is 6 weeks away and I don't want him to gain another 10 pounds during that time span.
Please give suggestions as I am out of ideas. Thanks and Happy Holidays
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From Jeremy, Child's Age 12 - 12/21/14 - IP#: 184.14.159.xxx Click here to reply
My son is twelve years old and close to 300lbs i would like to help him get fit. I dont want to lose him from his weight problems . I dont know how i can help. Can anyone help me?
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From Eric, Child's Age 16 - 12/02/14 - IP#: 69.249.205.xxx Click here to reply
I am a physical therapist by trade, and I'm in great shape. Two and a half years ago I moved from sunny California to New Hampshire with my wife and four (yes, four) sons as I got the chance to open my own gym up here (a personal dream of mine). It been great, the gym that is, but the dreary weather makes all of us miss home.
My oldest son, Jackson, is 16 now, and was especially angry about the move as he was leaving all his friends behind, many of whom he knew since grade school. The twins, Luke and Liam (14) also were pretty annoyed, though my youngest Aaron was too young to be really distraught as he was 9 at the time.
Anyway, before the move they all were active, healthy kids. None were overweight. In fact, up until a few days ago I was under the honest-to-god opinion that they were perfectly fine. I walked in on Liam changing his shirt, and couldn't help but notice he was ... (view more)I am a physical therapist by trade, and I'm in great shape. Two and a half years ago I moved from sunny California to New Hampshire with my wife and four (yes, four) sons as I got the chance to open my own gym up here (a personal dream of mine). It been great, the gym that is, but the dreary weather makes all of us miss home.
My oldest son, Jackson, is 16 now, and was especially angry about the move as he was leaving all his friends behind, many of whom he knew since grade school. The twins, Luke and Liam (14) also were pretty annoyed, though my youngest Aaron was too young to be really distraught as he was 9 at the time.
Anyway, before the move they all were active, healthy kids. None were overweight. In fact, up until a few days ago I was under the honest-to-god opinion that they were perfectly fine. I walked in on Liam changing his shirt, and couldn't help but notice he was definitely getting fat. Like manboobs and somewhat hanging belly fat. Yes, he seemed to increasingly wear loose shirts (me and his mom actually started joking that he was trying to go all gangster on us!), but I guess I just didn't want to worry. Looking back, I can tell he was gaining weight, I remember going to a buffet on a vacation and him eating quite a bit and noticing that he was looking large, and I have been noticing he has been the first one to finish his younger brother's leftovers.
Paying attention, it also looks like both Luke and Jackson have also gotten larger then they should be. Like not as bad or noticeable as Liam, but if you are paying attention you can tell they are no longer the skinny kids they once were. They definitely have not been as active here in New Hampshire, the weather (even in the summer) has taken its toll on a family used to going outside and playing all year long, but I am a physical therapist, I should have noticed this sooner! I work with overweight people all the time! (view less)
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From Sara, Child's Age 13 - 11/30/14 - IP#: 99.38.156.xxx Click here to reply
Hi. I have a 13 year old daughter who is obese. She is about 5"3 1/2 in height and her pant size is 10 but I don't know if it is in Woman's or Juniors. She is an average athlete. She runs miles in 8 minutes and 30 seconds or less.My daughter weighs 142 lb, but in the summer she lost 5 pounds and seemed to gain it back.i am very worried for her, even though she has many friends and is almost at the top of her class.i tried to talk to her about her weight but she keeps shutting me down. Lately she's been sneaking food and lying to our faces. I just want her to be skinny or at least 110 pounds. I myself am 43 and weight 165 and my husband who is 50 weighs 170. My older son weighs 200 lbs but is only 5"7. He is 17 almost 18 and is very lazy. I just don't want to see my baby girl go down that same road. Please help!
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From dylhan, Child's Age 16 - 10/28/14 - IP#: 104.4.240.xxx Click here to reply
actually, I'm not the parent ... I'm the child. I am 16 years old I weigh 250lbs and I am 5'3 1/2" I have an underactive thyroid and I hadn't been informed of it until a few years ago... I also have sleep apnea which doesn't exactly help either I try to take my medication for my thyroid around the same time every day but it never works that way and I do not use my c-pap at night either but I have been on diet after diet and I never lose a pound! I am so desperate I feel like my fat is suffocating me and I have been researching for residential placement for overweight children because I cannot do this ! its so hard and I cant stay motivated I have a problem and I need to fix it I wouldn't worry as much if I didn't have medical problems due to my weight such as sleep apnea which was caused because I gained weight from my underactive thyroid I had no idea about. I am never made fun of... (view more)actually, I'm not the parent ... I'm the child. I am 16 years old I weigh 250lbs and I am 5'3 1/2" I have an underactive thyroid and I hadn't been informed of it until a few years ago... I also have sleep apnea which doesn't exactly help either I try to take my medication for my thyroid around the same time every day but it never works that way and I do not use my c-pap at night either but I have been on diet after diet and I never lose a pound! I am so desperate I feel like my fat is suffocating me and I have been researching for residential placement for overweight children because I cannot do this ! its so hard and I cant stay motivated I have a problem and I need to fix it I wouldn't worry as much if I didn't have medical problems due to my weight such as sleep apnea which was caused because I gained weight from my underactive thyroid I had no idea about. I am never made fun of everyone thinks im gorgeous I have many friends and family who support me but I just think being somewhere away from everyone in a new environment where I can focus on just me and losing weight to be healthier then I would have more results especially because the staff would have to give me my medication at the same time everyday and I cant remember too I always run late in the mornings and forget the medication but anyways does anyone have any input or advice as to how I should go about this ? what do you think I should do and do you think I should go to a placement or facility till I get to a healthy weight? (view less)
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From Nikki, Child's Age 15 - 10/21/14 - IP#: 166.137.252.xxx Click here to reply
Hi everyone. I'm writing about my daughter who is 15 about to be 16. She is extremely over weight. Shes 5'3 & 265 pds I feel so bad for her she has always been over weight. Also she was born with club feet and has had a few surgerys done. Mostly she eats well.Some times junk with friends or with her father but at home where she is 95 percent of the time she eats home cooked balanced meals.agree d she could cut down in portion sizes but I feel bad and dont want her to be hungry. I cant motivate her at all.I've even tried to work out with her and noluck. She lost a total of 5 pds which is great and we all expressed how proud we where of her.That didnt last long and she put it back on.She shouldn't be as heavy as she is for what she does eat and she has been tested for everything that I know of. I just dont know what to do for her and im scared for her.I feel there should be programs for... (view more)Hi everyone. I'm writing about my daughter who is 15 about to be 16. She is extremely over weight. Shes 5'3 & 265 pds I feel so bad for her she has always been over weight. Also she was born with club feet and has had a few surgerys done. Mostly she eats well.Some times junk with friends or with her father but at home where she is 95 percent of the time she eats home cooked balanced meals.agree d she could cut down in portion sizes but I feel bad and dont want her to be hungry. I cant motivate her at all.I've even tried to work out with her and noluck. She lost a total of 5 pds which is great and we all expressed how proud we where of her.That didnt last long and she put it back on.She shouldn't be as heavy as she is for what she does eat and she has been tested for everything that I know of. I just dont know what to do for her and im scared for her.I feel there should be programs for kids with weight issues for little cost. I hate seeing her in pain, picked on, & her putting herself down is the worst.I dont push her alot because of her feet she complains they hurt and I know that they have to. Anyone out there that can help??? (view less)
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From Joe, Child's Age 16 - 10/12/14 - IP#: 24.191.222.xxx Click here to reply
I don't know if my daughter is actually fat but she looks chubby. She is 180lbs and 5 ft 3 she wants to gain more weight and doesn't care what people think
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From lynn, Child's Age 14 - 10/08/14 - IP#: 72.195.156.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter is getting to be the point where she is obese she keeps gaining weight. All she will do is sit around play on the computer. All day long she eats and eats. She goes to school but that's mostly it. I don't know what to do. I need some advice I'm really worried about her.
From Taylor, Child's Age 14 - 08/10/14 - IP#: 96.233.255.xxx Click here to reply
Hey there, my daughter is 14, weighs about 137 pounds, and is 5'4. I just came here to ask if she is overweight or not.
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From Misty, Child's Age 15 - 08/05/14 - IP#: 66.87.133.xxx Click here to reply
My cousins daughter is severely overweight ..500 lbs and I am very concerned for her. Her mother apparently unconcerned about it she attends online school and has no interaction outside of the house.Anyone have any suggestions for getting her some help??
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From Mark, Child's Age 16 - 08/04/14 - IP#: 67.80.152.xxx Click here to reply
About a month ago, I wrote on this board about 2 of my (now) 4 sons. This time it is about Adrian, my oldest. He is 16, 5'9 and 265 pounds. At the time of my last posting, Adrian was about 248-250 pounds. So this is about a 15 pound gain in a month. He likes to eat, and eats a lot throught the day (mostly junk). His weight has gone up sharply in the past months but this months gain is ridiculous. He wears a size 46 pants and he is in a bit of denial about his weight. He says that people keep teasing him because he is fat, but has no desire to lose. Please give advice, and thank you.
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