From Eric, Child's Age 13 - 07/22/22 - IP#: 46.15.136.xxx Click here to reply
Hi guys, recently (3 months ago) single dad here. Father of two, they live with me. I have to admit to being a pretty bad role model, as I am no exercise or sports guy except for random walks, and cooking and baking is a hobby of mine, and I am on the bigger side myself. My boys are not skinny, not fat, but on the chubbier side. After breaking up, they live most of the time with me alone, and that has resulted in weight gain, definitely. I am torn between wanting to do something about it or just being ok with it for now, because they are not that big. I also don't really know what or how to do it. Any inputs?
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From Melanie, Child's Age 16 - 07/12/22 - IP#: 198.181.163.xxx Click here to reply
I'm hoping to find other parents with overweight daughters who can relate to my situation. My daughter, Krista, keeps gaining more and more weight. She's now 425 lbs and still refuses to talk about it or do anything to help herself. She gets angry with me when I try to say anything about her weight and tells me to just leave her alone. She won't listen to anybody.
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From Nick, Child's Age 14 - 06/28/22 - IP#: 174.192.9.xxx Click here to reply
Hi all. Jack I still heading into dangerous territory. 159 yesterday. We are currently vacationing for the summer. I'm still lost.
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From Allen, Child's Age 16 - 06/25/22 - IP#: 104.254.92.xxx Click here to reply
Hi everyone, here for some advice. My son Allen just turned sixteen and he went for a check up at the doctors the other day. Allen has always been a big kid and I knew that he had gotten a bit larger over the last year, but I didn’t realize that he had gotten this large. He weighed in at 274 pounds at 5’7. During his last weigh in which was about a year ago, he weighed in around 220-225. The doctor had told us to watch what he eats and to eat healthier, but we definitely failed at that.
Allen has a large appetite and is often snacking; thinking about it we very rarely seem him without some type of food in hand. When he comes home from school there’s often a big gulp and some snacks in his hand, often snacks on those packaged donuts throughout the evening and so forth. My wife has attributed Allen’s eating to puberty growth, but it’s very evident now that he has gotten a bit too... (view more)Hi everyone, here for some advice. My son Allen just turned sixteen and he went for a check up at the doctors the other day. Allen has always been a big kid and I knew that he had gotten a bit larger over the last year, but I didn’t realize that he had gotten this large. He weighed in at 274 pounds at 5’7. During his last weigh in which was about a year ago, he weighed in around 220-225. The doctor had told us to watch what he eats and to eat healthier, but we definitely failed at that.
Allen has a large appetite and is often snacking; thinking about it we very rarely seem him without some type of food in hand. When he comes home from school there’s often a big gulp and some snacks in his hand, often snacks on those packaged donuts throughout the evening and so forth. My wife has attributed Allen’s eating to puberty growth, but it’s very evident now that he has gotten a bit too large. He’s outgrown many clothing sizes, and he physically looks much larger; his once pudgy belly is now hanging out of his shirts and when he walks around shirtless it’s completely covering the waistband of his boxers. Physically I’ve noticed labored breathing when moving around or climbing stairs and grunting when getting out of a chair or a lower spot.
My wife doesn’t want to do anything regarding his weight, as she feels that he will grow out of it and to not bring any stress into his life. I of course don’t want to bring stress into Allen’s life, but he’s quite massive at this point. Really unsure of what to do. (view less)
From Leah, Child's Age 13 - 06/11/22 - IP#: 46.165.250.xxx Click here to reply
Hello all! My name is Leah, I have one son named Liam. Liam's dad and I divorced about a year ago and I was granted full custody of my son. So, basically after my husband was gone I felt like there was a hole in my life, so I hope that explains some of this. A few months after my divorce, Liam and I settled into our new lives although we both felt out of place. He was depressed. He started eating whatever I put in front of him, and him always being a skinny kid, I enjoyed watching him start to put on weight. I made it get out of hand. The satisfaction of him putting on weight filled the hole my ex husband left. I was purposely giving him excessively high calorie food and spoiling him with sweets. I'm a big shopper and I enjoyed getting him new clothes all the time which was happening very fast. I didn't care that he was getting very fat and out of shape. He's now gone from about 100 or so pounds to 160 at 5'4. I still love taking him shopping, and cooking lots of food but I don't want him to be unhealthy. Please try to understand and let me know what to do.
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From Nick, Child's Age 14 - 06/07/22 - IP#: 71.117.185.xxx Click here to reply
Jack update. Turns out it wasn't him who was watching these videos. but thats another story. He's climbed up to 150, now and his doctor has suggested many times that he diets. My wife and I have cooked healthier meals, and got rid of the junk food in the house, however, he's still putting on weight. he refuses to do excersize, and just sits in his room and eats and plays videogames. seeing him now pains me. I don't know what to do.
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From Nick, Child's Age 14 - 05/10/22 - IP#: 71.117.185.xxx Click here to reply
Just a small update. Jack's Weight continues to climb. we are going through some health insurance issues at this time and are unable to consult with a doctor. Jack now weighs in at 141 pounds (5'1 now) and is getting very large. My wife and I are financially struggling at this time and are unable to keep buying him new shirts and pants. He confesses the added weight does not bother him, however a lot of things have become a struggle. Because of his old clothes now being unable to get around his hips, he's in a cycle of a few pairs of sweats/ t shirts. Everything, however is riding up on him and fitting him uncomfortably tight. his appetite is continuously increasing and his eating has been relentless. Anyways, the main reason i'm writing this update is because I have found out that he has been purposefully doing this to himself. My son has gained over 50 pounds in the last 4 months on... (view more)Just a small update. Jack's Weight continues to climb. we are going through some health insurance issues at this time and are unable to consult with a doctor. Jack now weighs in at 141 pounds (5'1 now) and is getting very large. My wife and I are financially struggling at this time and are unable to keep buying him new shirts and pants. He confesses the added weight does not bother him, however a lot of things have become a struggle. Because of his old clothes now being unable to get around his hips, he's in a cycle of a few pairs of sweats/ t shirts. Everything, however is riding up on him and fitting him uncomfortably tight. his appetite is continuously increasing and his eating has been relentless. Anyways, the main reason i'm writing this update is because I have found out that he has been purposefully doing this to himself. My son has gained over 50 pounds in the last 4 months on purpouse. I got a call from his school that while using his student google account, has watched videos of "gainers" on youtube. I've heard of that term before and have seen several programs on it on TLC here in america. I guess he enjoys getting fat? He obviously isn't keen on telling us, based on the fact that he hasnt already. I just don;t know what to say. Please let me know how I should talk to him (view less)
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From Nick, Child's Age 14 - 04/05/22 - IP#: 71.117.185.xxx Click here to reply
Update: jack is even bigger. He's up to 126 today.
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From Miles, Child's Age 16 - 04/01/22 - IP#: 172.56.35.xxx Click here to reply
Hi everyone, I wrote here about three months ago about my son Miles who gained a lot of weight during and after the pandemic. At the time of my last writing Miles was 378 at 6’1. Today he’s about 410 and 6’1. I’m completely lost on what to do. He’s eating loads of food outside the house at his fast food job and it’s obviously taking a toll on his health.
I’ve paid more attention to his physical and eating habits over the last three months and it’s gone downhill. I don’t buy snacks, but he fills my pantry with snack cakes and other junk food that he wolfs down every day. It’s like every time I see Miles he has some snack that I didn’t buy. His fitness has gone down the toilet - I can tell it’s taking more energy than it should just to do simple tasks like climb stairs or walk a few blocks. Even getting up from the chair takes a little bit of effort. He’s not depressed or anything, somehow has a vibrant social life, but it’s at the point where he’s gonna have a heart attack if he continues down this path.
Anyone have any advice?
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From Nick, Child's Age 14 - 03/26/22 - IP#: 71.117.185.xxx Click here to reply
I am aware this site is for overweight children- butt my child is getting close. Jack had been in shape all his life until a few months ago, when he started to put on weight. January 4th he weighed in at 86 pounds and about 5'0 - size 8/10. this was good news because he'd always been close to underweight. Thought nothing of it. mid last month is when i noticed he was starting to get chubby. He wears a lot of slim-fit clothes, and I noticed his pants were a bit tight around his thighs, and his shirt seemed a bit tight aswell. I thought nothing of it, just maybe he'd grown a bit. Now, the 6th of this month there was definitely more of a difference. That morning, when he came downstairs for breakfast, i couldn't help but notice that he had filled out quite a bit. I didn't want to say anything,the last thing i want to do is make him self concious. I hadn't mentioned it to my wife, either. It... (view more)I am aware this site is for overweight children- butt my child is getting close. Jack had been in shape all his life until a few months ago, when he started to put on weight. January 4th he weighed in at 86 pounds and about 5'0 - size 8/10. this was good news because he'd always been close to underweight. Thought nothing of it. mid last month is when i noticed he was starting to get chubby. He wears a lot of slim-fit clothes, and I noticed his pants were a bit tight around his thighs, and his shirt seemed a bit tight aswell. I thought nothing of it, just maybe he'd grown a bit. Now, the 6th of this month there was definitely more of a difference. That morning, when he came downstairs for breakfast, i couldn't help but notice that he had filled out quite a bit. I didn't want to say anything,the last thing i want to do is make him self concious. I hadn't mentioned it to my wife, either. It was when he sat down at the dinner table, there was an audible pop. It was the button of his jeans. My wife, who I love dearly but sometimes doesn't think, goes over to him and says "Someone's getting chunky" My son's face turned red, mine white. He had no reply. It was kinda akward. The rest of the day panned out, bt when he came home from school i sat him down and we talked for a bit. I gave him the whole "it's a natural part of growing up puberty bla bla bla, growth spurt etc.", and we all went clothes shopping later. Got him a whole new wardrobe- around size 12 or so. Now that the air was broken, he was comfortable telling us he had noticed as well and that he weighed himself and recorded 103. I was a bit shocked but I understood he's ready for a growth spurt. SO time went on, I didn't notice a change once again until today after looking at some pictures we took last month on a trip. He'd definitely gotten even bigger. His gut has grown quite a bit as well as everywhere else. His face is rounder and even his hands, wich he used to complain were bony are filled out. (Oh also, weigh in, 117, 5'1) Today was another round of clothes shopping. Now wearing a 16. I can't help but be worried for him, as this opens up the possibility of self-consciousness and bullying. (view less)
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From Melanie, Child's Age 16 - 03/20/22 - IP#: 198.181.163.xxx Click here to reply
I wrote a while back about my daughter, Krista, who has put on a bunch of weight since the pandemic started. Well, things have not improved at all since then, and she is now 395 lbs. Every time I try to discuss her weight with her we end up in a fight. She says she is "well aware of how fat she has gotten" and that "she doesn't need me constantly reminding her." But she just keeps getting bigger. I try restricting what she can eat, but she just goes and gets stuff outside the house. I've taken her to the doctor, but she won't listen to them either.
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From Lizzie, Child's Age 18 - 01/31/22 - IP#: 115.189.86.xxx Click here to reply
My son has always been relatively fit and healthy, he was active throughout his high school years through playing sport and swimming. Until he left for college last year in September, my son left for college he was 6,1 180lbs and as of last week he is now 6,1 205lbs. I’m not oblivious to the fact that kids go off to college and party, eat junk food etc. I also understand that it’s a stressful time and kids weight fluctuates. However, 25lbs in 6 months is quite a bit of weight, when he was visiting home I didn’t mentioned it (even though it was obvious, his face had gotten chubbier and he now has a small beer gut) until my son asked to go shopping. When he was trying on clothes he acknowledged that he gained some weight and was looking to loose the “freshman 15” he gained because of stress and no access to gym facilities, but when I asked him if he wanted to go to the gym or on a walk he ... (view more)My son has always been relatively fit and healthy, he was active throughout his high school years through playing sport and swimming. Until he left for college last year in September, my son left for college he was 6,1 180lbs and as of last week he is now 6,1 205lbs. I’m not oblivious to the fact that kids go off to college and party, eat junk food etc. I also understand that it’s a stressful time and kids weight fluctuates. However, 25lbs in 6 months is quite a bit of weight, when he was visiting home I didn’t mentioned it (even though it was obvious, his face had gotten chubbier and he now has a small beer gut) until my son asked to go shopping. When he was trying on clothes he acknowledged that he gained some weight and was looking to loose the “freshman 15” he gained because of stress and no access to gym facilities, but when I asked him if he wanted to go to the gym or on a walk he said he couldn’t be bothered or he was catching up with people later. I also noticed that his appetite has increased more. I’m worried that his increased appetite plus his lack of motivation to exercise is going to lead him to gain more weight. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this?! (view less)
From Miles, Child's Age 16 - 12/31/21 - IP#: 172.56.21.xxx Click here to reply
Hey everyone, happy early new year. My son Miles recently went to the doctors office for a year end physical, and he weighed in at 378 pounds at 6’1. Miles has always been a big kid, but I didn’t anticipate him being this big. He’s never brought any attention to me about his weight, but I’ve noticed that simple things like stairs or bending to tie his shoes often gets him out of breath, and it’s very hard for him to find clothes that fit his growing size.
This is bad, but we’ve neglected to go to the doctor during covid for health reasons, and his last physical was at 14 right before the pandemic. He was big then, about 5’7 and 220 pounds. Gaining nearly a hundred and sixty pounds in two years brought alarm to his pediatrician, but not much was said.
Miles’s appetite is humongous, but I never wanted to have him feel hungry or develop some kind of food insecurity so I always... (view more)Hey everyone, happy early new year. My son Miles recently went to the doctors office for a year end physical, and he weighed in at 378 pounds at 6’1. Miles has always been a big kid, but I didn’t anticipate him being this big. He’s never brought any attention to me about his weight, but I’ve noticed that simple things like stairs or bending to tie his shoes often gets him out of breath, and it’s very hard for him to find clothes that fit his growing size.
This is bad, but we’ve neglected to go to the doctor during covid for health reasons, and his last physical was at 14 right before the pandemic. He was big then, about 5’7 and 220 pounds. Gaining nearly a hundred and sixty pounds in two years brought alarm to his pediatrician, but not much was said.
Miles’s appetite is humongous, but I never wanted to have him feel hungry or develop some kind of food insecurity so I always had food available. Admittedly, often times that would be fast food due to the convenience of it, and to satisfy his hunger. I always gave him some money to get a snack after school, but this snack has turned into a full blown fast food meal every day after school unfortunately. This is also bad, but I usually bring home fast food twice a week for dinner when I work late, it’s hard being a single working parent and cooking every night.
I realize that Miles’s weight is an issue, but I’m unsure on how to exactly address this with him. I’m a guidance counselor and psychologist by trade, and I know that approaching this the wrong way could have a detrimental effect on his wellbeing. The ideal thing would be to let him bring this to me, but it’s difficult to sit back and watch him get fatter. Does anyone have any suggestions or thoughts? (view less)
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From Dave, Child's Age 17 - 12/25/21 - IP#: 109.189.84.xxx Click here to reply
Hello! How do you cope with christmas and with new covid restrictions again? I find it hard to motivate and stick to good habits formed on healthy food and on exercise. What about you?
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From Jayden, Child's Age 16 - 11/23/21 - IP#: 180.149.231.xxx Click here to reply
Hello everyone,
My 16-year-old son lived with his mother (my ex-wife) up until last year since he was 5 years old. My ex-wife has always had full custody of him since we broke up and hadn't seen him last year. My ex-wife died from a heart issue, she asked me to take care of my son. I couldn't say no, and I didn't want him to end up in foster care. When I first saw my son in such a long time, I was rather shocked by how big he was. I didn't say anything for about 12 months, as it wasn't appropriate due to him recently surfing a loss. When first mentioned it to him, he started crying, I knew there was an issue. So I left it for a while. After a few weeks, he wanted to talk about his weight issues. He told me that he had been bullied for being fat at school for years, I didn't know this. We decided that we take him to the doctor for a check-up, his weight was 426lbs. The doctor told us that he need to lose weight. I don't know what I should do now?
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