From Gail, Child's Age 4 - 03/01/08 - IP#: 217.184.242.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter is 23 years old and she is a compulsive overeater. She is a single mother of a little girl who will turn five in May. The father of the girl has left my daughter when the child was 17 month old and she never heard of him again. My daughter than began to overeat and drink to much. She quit the drinking over a year ago but continued to overeat.
The little girl has always been a little chubby but in the last six month her weight has really increased. She gained at least 10 pounds. She already carries quite a belly. She weights a little over 50 pounds my daughter told me. I'm not sure how much a child of that age should weight. My daughter also told me that she allows the little girl to eat candy quite often, because she doesn't know how to explain her, why mommy is eating so much candy but why the child can't have it.
The little girl spend the last weekend at our house... (view more)My daughter is 23 years old and she is a compulsive overeater. She is a single mother of a little girl who will turn five in May. The father of the girl has left my daughter when the child was 17 month old and she never heard of him again. My daughter than began to overeat and drink to much. She quit the drinking over a year ago but continued to overeat.
The little girl has always been a little chubby but in the last six month her weight has really increased. She gained at least 10 pounds. She already carries quite a belly. She weights a little over 50 pounds my daughter told me. I'm not sure how much a child of that age should weight. My daughter also told me that she allows the little girl to eat candy quite often, because she doesn't know how to explain her, why mommy is eating so much candy but why the child can't have it.
The little girl spend the last weekend at our house and my husband and me were surprised how much the girl ate. She ate very rapidly and an amount of food, that I think is large for a four year old. She really stuffes herself at meals and always asked for second helpings.
I'm really concerned about my granddaughter and want to help her. I know that I can't help my daughter as long as she doesn't want help with her eating disorder, but I want to help my granddaughter, I just don't know how.
Can a child at that age already have an eating disorder or I'm just panicking because of my daughter? (view less)
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From Taylor - 02/23/08 - IP#: 75.66.43.xxx Click here to reply
Okay, so nope, I'm not a parent, but I was bored and so nI was reading some of the posts on here, and WHOA! Hold on a second! Don't get me wrong, a lot of the parents on here are taking a very positive approach to their child's weight loss. But in contrast there are far too many parents who use words like "disgusting", "fat", and "lazy" to describe THEIR CHILD! And so many more who put phrases like "I'm humiliated" and "I don't know what to do". Stop and rewind for a sec; is this about YOU? I thought this was about YOUR CHILD! the one who desperately needs help and support, to lose weight. Who needs some one to turn to when they're bullied, or they don't know how to go about losing weight by themselves. It's just sick to be "humiliated" by your own child. If you don't support them no one will, and if they're unhappy about their weight, they'll do whatever they can to get rid of it. But... (view more)Okay, so nope, I'm not a parent, but I was bored and so nI was reading some of the posts on here, and WHOA! Hold on a second! Don't get me wrong, a lot of the parents on here are taking a very positive approach to their child's weight loss. But in contrast there are far too many parents who use words like "disgusting", "fat", and "lazy" to describe THEIR CHILD! And so many more who put phrases like "I'm humiliated" and "I don't know what to do". Stop and rewind for a sec; is this about YOU? I thought this was about YOUR CHILD! the one who desperately needs help and support, to lose weight. Who needs some one to turn to when they're bullied, or they don't know how to go about losing weight by themselves. It's just sick to be "humiliated" by your own child. If you don't support them no one will, and if they're unhappy about their weight, they'll do whatever they can to get rid of it. But if you don't teach them the right way, they won't know what to do. So in order lose weight, they'll do exactly the OPPOSITE of what they're doing now. They just won't eat or they'll purge everything they eat, and then the have a nice case or anorexia nervosa or bulimia nervosa. Do you want that to happen? And when they're underweight will you be "humiliated" or "embarassed" by them? Will you be screaming at them to stop doing sit-ups and go eat dinner? Because being underweight is just as dangerous as being overweight. But I've never come across a site where there are people saying they're humiliated by there 60 pound teenage daughter. So to you parents who are being supportive and doing the right thing, I wish the best for you and you child. You're heart's in the right place, and you will see the reward of happiness in your child's eyes. But for the rest of you who constantly call your child "fat" or a "pig", I hope you change your ways. I would know what it's like. I'm a perfectly healthy weigth... 127 at 5'6", but still everytime I put on a bathing suit or eat a snack I have to hear my parents talking about how chubby I am or how much of a pig I am. It's not easy. So do something to help your child. By calling them names or saying your embarassed by them, you're only hurting them. (view less)
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From olivia, Child's Age 11 - 02/07/08 - IP#: 70.225.69.xxx Click here to reply
Hi! My child is 11 and weighs 168. we've been going to the ymca. she is so determined to lose the weight she will be turning 12 in june.she feels that she needs to at least lose 20-30 pounds. the doctor said she is over weight and that the reason why she sweats alot and sometimes her right leg hurts because she is over weight she some times she has to go to the plus size girls. but, sometimes she can pick out of the juniors. thank- you for your time.
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From Michele, Child's Age 12 - 01/28/08 - IP#: 70.156.165.xxx Click here to reply
Hi, Everyone,
I'm new here. My son is 12 and in 6th grade. He is 5 feet and weighs 160 pounds. We've been on and off diets since 4th grade. He once lost 30 pounds on the Trim Kids program (a book you can buy). Now we're currently doing Weight Watchers, which I think he likes the best.
It's such a struggle for me. I'm not really overweight and neither is my 14-year-old daughter. His stepdad could lose some weight, but Jake is sometimes the only one on a diet.
I get so many opinions from people. The attitudes I get are sometimes that I'm mean for making him be on a diet. When he's not on one, I get the other attitude, why aren't I helping him. You just can't do anything right as a parent sometimes.
Jake always feels like he's the only one. He hates himself.
Forever trying,
Michele
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From Nicole, Child's Age 15 - 01/27/08 - IP#: 65.26.248.xxx Click here to reply
My child is teased all the time at school and has terrible self esteem issues. When shes depressed she eats and when she eats she gets more depressed because the fact that she ate that, meant she put on more weight. We dont have any junk food around but she will stuff herself on apples and 100 calorie packages. Its not healthy at all. We also have no idea what to do exercise wise. Shes 5'10 and weighs 250. Please help, I want to put an end to her depression.
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From Egan, Child's Age 12 - 01/21/08 - IP#: 32.141.33.xxx Click here to reply
hi I just want to tell you guys about my 12 year old son. My son Brendan is 5 ft 240 pounds. He gets made fun of all the time and just does not stop eating. One issue is we live next door to a Burger King which he eats at at least 2 times a day. I took him for a physical at the doctors and found out his arteries are clauged and he is 120 pounds over his normal weight. I blame that on me because I am 5'6 580 pounds and am out of shape too. My wife does not stop bringing junk food I to the house. And shopping for him is hard too I have to buy. Size 45 waist and have it taylored for his height. Recently when he went swimming his bathing suit ripped and even worse a boy went up to him and said get A bra you girl. Me and my son need some major changes but we just can't stop eating and sitting around any sujnestions.
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From David, Child's Age 12 - 01/04/08 - IP#: 67.100.128.xxx Click here to reply
My thanks to Michelle who wrote a response to the last message I posted. It was a very positive response. My daughter I believe is still at 170 lbs still will not get on the scales for me as she is embarrased about her weight. Since although my daughter is overweight but not as seriously as some of the children here, I would like to make it my first goal to get her to talk about her weight rather than lose it. I would like to have someone show how I can get her to open up about it, and a way that I can show her as much understanding as possible rather than judgement. I do love her regardless of what her weight is and I will still love her even if she gains. How can I get her to understand that if she loses weight she must do it for herself? Not for me.
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From Duncan, Child's Age 11 - 12/17/07 - IP#: 24.207.126.xxx Click here to reply
Hi, i've posted here before about my son Michael who is overweight and it seems to be getting worse. We managed to get him to shift some weight towards the end of the summer but not that the winters hit he's gone back to sedentary and even the previous tactics are failing. He went down to 200 and 5ft in September but is now back to 230.
He still says he feels fine and hes ok with being big but its realyl hard to find school clothes that fit him. He doesn't eat lots of junk just eats a lot, if we don't feed him as much he sneaks it. He'll grab some pasta in the middle of the night or when my wife's out and cook it himself.
We've done our best to discourage his overeating, even encouraged him not to by rewarding him but he finds ways to hide it from us until its too late.
Any help would be gladly appreciated.
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From Laura, Child's Age 10 - 12/08/07 - IP#: 84.137.103.xxx Click here to reply
Hi! I have posted here about my 10 year old daughter, who has a weight problem. Well, she refused to be weighted and so I don't weight her. Well she spend the last weekend at her fathers house and he weighted her. My daughter weights now 217 pounds at 4'9. She told me, she is very embarrased about her weight and is upset about her father weighting her. I told her we will do something about her weight in January and she was quite happy. But since last weekend she has been eating constantly.
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From Bea, Child's Age 16 - 11/16/07 - IP#: 38.99.101.xxx Click here to reply
I have been trying to support my daughter (she's 16, 5'4") i have recently learned that she weighs 229 lbs, carrys most of her weight in her big belly. I know she is embarrassed by her weight, her brothers and sisters and her father and I are very thin, and she is always gaining more and more weight. we try to exercise, but she is so embarrassed to be working out, I can tell mostly its because her belly wobbles alot. any advice from any of you whose children have larger bellies?
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From olga, Child's Age 13 - 11/13/07 - IP#: 68.49.65.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter is 13 years old and her weight is 204. We visit her doctor and she that my daughter to eat the the right food. My daughter is ADD and is taking concerta to perform in school. I have hard time for her to excerise and eating the right food. She join the basketball team but won't start till december. She goes swimming for a hour twice a week. She eats alot at night time, went I go to bed. I try to talk to her about her eating habits. She doesn't wasnt me to remind her and to her her be. Please help me and suggest what I should do. Thanks, Olga
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From J.F., Child's Age 17 - 11/12/07 - IP#: 76.102.235.xxx Click here to reply
Boy, tall (75 inches, 6'3", 254 pounds), active, plays baseball every fall and spring. We (the parents) encourage a healthy lifestyle but certainly do not push it down his throat, I am one or two pounds overweight (at 46) and his mom is slim so we are relatively good role models. However, the problem recently is that his brother who is 3 years younger and looks up to him a lot has picked up a lot of his eating habits and is getting a little chubby. What to do?
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From David, Child's Age 12 - 11/03/07 - IP#: 68.167.253.xxx Click here to reply
My daughter weighs 170 lbs at the age of 12. She is quite strong and admits that she is embarrased about her weight. I caught her standing on scales when she did not know I was looking. She does eat healthy although she does have the occasional junk food. I am concerned that she could go diabetic as both her mother and I are. Her mother has had a serious weight problem and has bariatric surgery. I think my daughter will have the same thing too one day.
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From tonda, Child's Age 13 - 11/03/07 - IP#: 65.54.155.xxx Click here to reply
i feel so bad, because my daughter at 5'2", 178, doent know that she is obese, i always come home finding mcdonalds wrappers in the trash(there is a mcdonalds on the walk home from school) im a health freak and i go running every morning from 5to7, i dont know what to do to get her even somewhat close to a normal weight, she has gained 20 pounds in the past 2months
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From Bea, Child's Age 16 - 10/30/07 - IP#: 38.99.101.xxx Click here to reply
I am very concerned about my 16 y.o. daughter. she always has been big, her last dr. appt weighed her at 198 pounds!(she is 5'4". I was so upset with her that she she weighed almost 200 lbs, I know I was very wrong and I apologized for that. Now, I am afraid shes has put on quite a bit more this year, but she REFUSES to go to her Doctor. her chest and her stomach are so incredibly large, I am always overhearing comments of strangers and even family ask if shes expecting a baby. I am so ashamed at myself because there are manytimes I am so humiliated, shes such a beautiful girl, its sad for me to see her holding her great big belly and eating all time. last week, we were painting the house so we all slept in the den, while she was sleeping her pj's had rolled up and I was in shock to see her lying there on her side, and she just had this enormous belly literally SPILLING out in front of her. i think she has to be 240 or maybe 250 lbs. she wont exercise because of the size of her chest, its very difficult for her. please any advice for me?
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